Posted on 01/09/2017 4:52:10 AM PST by servo1969
Full Title: Any woman who claims her son's better off without a dad needs her head examined: As actress January Jones says she is GLAD her little boy doesn't have a father, a guilt-ridden single mother blasts her comments
Chatting to my teenage daughter over a family dinner the other evening, I paused to reprimand my nine-year-old son for slurping his spaghetti and making a terrible mess in the process.
'You can't tell me off,' he spat back. 'I'm the man of the house.'
Of course I was cross with Charlie for being so impudent, and told him so in no uncertain terms. But at the same time I felt terribly sorry for my confused little boy, growing up, as he is, in a home without a father, and a much-needed role model.
I was, therefore, appalled yesterday to read that the actress January Jones, of Mad Men fame, believes that her five-year-old son is better off fatherless.
Speaking about her son, Xander, the 39-year-old actress told Red magazine: 'He doesn't have a male person saying "Don't cry" or "You throw like a girl". All those s***** things dads accidentally do.'
However, as a fellow single mum, I couldn't disagree more. Of course, many mothers raise children well without fathers after death, divorce or as a result of lifestyle choices. But I have never heard of a mother celebrating the fact that her son has no one to call 'Dad'.
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I agree that a parent should never strike a child violently, but sometimes a little pat in the tush can get the child’s attention.
Leave the violence for the leftist.
No, I haven’t seen it, although it would be interesting to see how one accidentally dyes one’s hair orange.
Look at how celebrities’ children usually turn out. (Carrie Fisher, anyone?) Beyond an adequate level of food and shelter, money doesn’t produce better outcomes.
You’ve never seen people who’ve accidentally used the wrong Clairol product, lol?! I have.
“What on earth..............really?”
I can prove it... I first discovered this while working with lesbians. The pattern was very frequently the same.
I feel people’s stored memories of their life experiences since conception as physical objects no matter how old the person is now. I have a person stand 15 feet from me and close their eyes. When I touch the stored memory in their soul, not only do I experience it as my own life event, but it frequently knocks the person off their feet. I read people’s souls.
I primarily use it to help people with PTSD or severe trauma that has shackled their lives. Soldiers, rape victims, molested children, just about any event that can be perceived as traumatic. Even a parent’s divorce is traumatic to a child no matter the age.
What I do is instantaneous depth psychology. Except that conventional psychology is like peeling an onion from the inside out, and often the person never gets to the original perceptual programming event that created the repetitive unhealthy patterns in life. I go right to the original event that created the pattern. When you heal the original event, all other similar traumatic events occurring during a person’s life just drop away like dominoes.
If a person has an illness, I have them close their eyes and think of the location of the illness in their body. I walk toward them with my hand outstretched. When my hand hits the memory stored in their soul that created the predisposition to the illness, their body physically moves, often knocking the person off their feet. Angry memories always knocks the person to their right while internalized memories such as cancer and immune system disorders always knock the person to their left.
When I do this, I don’t physically touch a person, their eyes are closed, I say nothing, and there is no taste or smell stimulus. I never considered psychology as a science due to the biased variable of perceptual programming influencing all stimulus/response experiments until I discovered this. (even though one of my degrees is in psychology)
I’ve been able to do this since 1988 when I died of meningitis, went to Heaven and then returned to my physical body. It’s as though I perceive directly from my soul or spirit rather than just my physical senses. It’s a whole different reality and very difficult for me to live with.
Ridiculous. I did not marry until I was 46. I got a package deal on a wonderful woman and four teen and pre teen kids. Dad had been a useless and abusive drunk. I could not believe how much they craved having a father figure. The older girl was very (justifiably) protective of her mother, so I was on probation for awhile but the younger kids took to me immediately. There have been a few bumps in the road, but all in all its been great. Being single for so long I got to do a lot of cool things. Raced motorcycles, scuba diving, flying, etc. Walking a beautiful young woman who calls you Dad down the Isle tops them all. What is scary is that the guy waiting at the alter was so much like me. It must be a kind of “imprinting” thing. Thankfully he lacks my glaring faults. It certainly makes you aware of your responsibility as a father. If I’d been a jerk, would she have married one?
“If your father role is to physically harm your child in the name of some sort of sick “discipline”, he may indeed be better off without you in his life. And your lovely wife should not be hitting the child in the face. You two need help.”
Who are you to tell anyone else how to parent their kids, let alone call it “sick” or that they need “help”? Are you one of those people who cant tell the difference between spanking and child abuse?
“That sounds like a bit of unscientific sophistry! The child having been born and raised by an angry mom may be influenced emotionally and psychologically to develop such a loathing of dad, but there is no proof that this “set path to daddy hatred” starts in utero via some voodoo spiritual or unknown chemical/enzymatic apparatus!”
I have done this with/ and in front of neuroscientists and MD’s. It is science, not voodoo or psychic ability.
People don’t realize that our perception of reality is a function of the level of consciousness from which we view it. As you raise your consciousness to a higher level through prayer and meditation, a new reality is perceived. In this new reality, much that is invisible at the lower level becomes visible. It’s why Jesus teaches what He does in the Bible.
You know the mother has been telling the boy that he's the man of the house since he was old enough to speak. Yeah, great idea not having a father around. You reap what you sow.
Congratulations for being open to loving and raising the children. I did a similar situation and blended children from two families. It was very difficult.
The attraction that we feel as love is often created by our soul searching for a surrogate to project an unresolved wound upon for an opportunity to resolve it. It’s the reason that we are often attracted toward someone whose personality is similar to one of our parents. I do a fair amount of work with women who get into physically violent relationships, one after another. They can’t help themselves as it is an underlying attraction.
One woman I worked with had been hospitalized due to being beaten by the same man. Each time he went to jail. And, each time she took him back again. Her comment to me was... “I can’t help myself. It’s as though I am addicted to him.”
I went into her soul field, found the childhood experience that created the perceptual programming event of the original wound, and we resolved it.(It was about 12 feet from her physical body) The next day she called me to say that her attraction toward her husband was totally gone. I explained that you don’t need a surrogate to resolve a wound that has already been healed. (Note: I also ended up working with him to heal his violent tendencies.. that is a long story in of itself)
My warning to you is that the daughters may have a strong underlying attraction toward boys whose personality is similar to their birth father with whom they have unresolved conflict. Please help them as they are going through the dating process as the stronger the unresolved conflict the stronger their attraction toward boys with the similar personality. This is what creates the chemistry attraction of love.
Well said. I was lucky, my parents divorced when I was six, and my stepfather was the man who raised me. We had a special relationship.
Now I know I haven't been the greatest dad, but I've done two things for my three kids that they can never take away from me: one, I made sure they were born in Texas; two, I taught them how to swim.
Anything else is pure gravy...lol.
It was from that experience (bitter divorce and the hard feelings that existed for years) that I vowed another man would not raise my children. My youngest turns 15 next month, so I've held true to that vow. My MIL was the matriarch of the family, and that attitude carried to her seven daughters. I knew what I was getting into when I got married, i.e. I made that bed long ago.
Wouldn't change a thing.
While it is a lousy generalization, some homes are better off without the drunk/abusive father around.
No, are you?
I haven't seen whatever experiments tired&retired might be referring to, but it's been proven that babies in the womb recognize their parents' and siblings' voices and respond distinctively to them both before and after birth. It wouldn't be a big surprise if in the process, the unborn baby is taking in information about which of the characters out there is "friend" or "foe" to the others or to the baby himself. Isn't that "friend or foe" judgment a main reason why any of us has the ability to recognize individual people at all?
That's not to say anything a baby learns in the womb is more permanent than what he learns after birth. All of us are continually updating our attitudes to other family members.
There's been a medical revolution since Roe vs. Wade. As we get more technical ability to see what's going on in the unborn world, we keep discovering that babies in the womb know more than we thought. They're not wasting time in there. To some unknown degree, they are already "players," even when we can't see them.
“Little girls need a daddy to show them how they should be treated by a man.”
You never lived in a house with my father. You could be correct in one way... “See how Daddy treats you, then find a man exactly opposite.”
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“sick discipline”
That’s funny.
Did you read that in a book?
Our boys are extremely well behaved and quite popular with their peers. They are happy and all around healthy young kids. When I come home from work they rush to hug me because they are glad to see me. Tonight is Scout night and I’m sure they are looking forward to me taking them.
I think I will stay in their lives, thank you very much.
Feminism is a mental illness.
“No, are you?”
So you CAN tell the difference between spanking and child abuse?
“My warning to you is that the daughters may have a strong underlying attraction toward boys whose personality is similar to their birth father with whom they have unresolved conflict.”
Both are married to good men with good jobs who are good fathers. The younger one dated a real loser for awhile. Not violent or drunk but lazy and unnapreciative. So your concerns may be justified. “H” certainly didn’t have to settle for second best. She’s a statuesque dark haired beauty. Every Halloween someone suggests she dress up as Wonder Woman. Wonderful person also. Recently, while taking care of her own two little girls she found time to prepare and freeze a months worth of meals for a pregnant friend so she wouldn’t have to cook for a month after delivery. Every once in awhile I tell my son in law (with just a hint of seriousness) that if he ever forgets he’s the luckiest man in the world I’ll kick his ass!
Depends on the dad. Mine was a philandering piece of crap. The less time he had to screw me up the better.
Your comments regarding “reincarnation” then making reference to “why Jesus teaches what he does” in the Bible are spiritually non sequitor...Ezekiel 18 spoken out of the Logos of God and fulfilled in the person of the Logos( that became flesh and dwelt amongst us) has something very different to say....but here is the preamble to the chapter! Ezekiel 18:1-3
1The word of the LORD came unto me again, saying,
2What mean ye, that ye use this proverb concerning the land of Israel, saying, The fathers have eaten sour grapes, and the children’s teeth are set on edge?
3As I live, saith the Lord GOD, ye shall not have occasion any more to use this proverb in Israel. 4Behold, all souls are mine; as the soul of the father, so also the soul of the son is mine: the soul that sinneth, it shall die.”
Many children who have gone wrong have also been shown to have good families with no known traumatic issues for the mother during pregnancy. Others, born in horrible circumstances, have overcome those obstacles. Every soul is responsible for their own actions before God...I know there have been some studies that show that there could be parental negatives that somehow show up genetically in the next generations, but Ezekiel 18, as Jesus shows us through the many transformations of lives by the spirit of grace, says that these are seen as nondeterminant by the living God.
So what daddy was a bad man and mommy feels negative about him, with God in your corner, how will you decide to live your life?
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