"..am I gonna get chased by a broom if I answer?"
Posted on 03/12/2015 6:54:19 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
If you’re a man who smiles at women and makes an effort to be kind to them, you’re probably an “insidious” and “treacherous” sexist, according to a study conducted by researchers from Northeastern University in Boston.
Seriously.
After observing 27 people playing Trivial Pursuit, the researchers determined that these kind of behaviors — previously known as “chivalry” — were actually signs of what’s called “benevolent sexism.”
In other words: Men who think that women deserve to be treated well often also think that women should be treated particularly well because they’re women. This, they explain, perpetuates gender inequality. Offering your jacket to a shivering women isn’t helping her — it’s hurting her by perpetuating the patriarchal idea that a woman is more likely to be cold than you are just because she’s a woman.
Other warning signs of “benevolent sexism” include being friendly and chatty to women — which head researcher Jin Goh said is in some ways worse than being mean and/or straight up ignoring them:
“Sexism can appear very friendly and very welcoming, so in the paper we said that sexism can act like a wolf in sheep’s clothing,” Goh said, according to an article in the Washington Post. “We add that sexism can consciously or unconsciously cloak itself in friendliness, so in a way it’s more insidious and treacherous than hostile sexism.”
If you still don’t believe that “nice guys” are just sexist pigs in sheep’s clothing, check out some of their responses to questions on a test distributed by the researchers. They actually said things like “Women should be rescued from a sinking ship before men” and “A good woman should be set on a pedestal by her man.” Whoa!
See, here’s the thing — I totally do want to be rescued from a sinking ship first, and I’d immediately break up with anyone who didn’t set me on a pedestal. What’s so wrong with that?
Well, according to another one of the researchers, what’s wrong is that I actually don’t want those things for myself. I’m just too mesmerized by the tricks of benevolent sexists to realize that the chivalrous treatment I think I enjoy is actually oppressing me:
“These supposed gestures of good faith may entice women to accept the status quo in society because sexism literally looks welcoming, appealing and harmless,” researcher and professor Judith Hall said, according to an article in the Independent.
Well, Hall — you’ve got me there. Not having to drown to death on the Titanic does sound “appealing” to me. As does being asked if I want a coat when I’m shivering, especially considering the fact that it is literally scientifically true that women are more likely to feel colder than men. These are nice things; I appreciate them, and what’s really “hurting” me are articles like this that make men too reluctant to do them. (For example: I do wish a man would have helped me with my giant suitcase before it knocked me over as I was trying to drag it down the stairs by myself at a Duane Reade.)
I do agree that our society needs to view women as human beings who are just as valuable as men, and that we are in many ways not there yet — but I don’t see how lambasting both mean and nice behavior as “sexist” is going to solve anything. To suggest that I should be critical of men who listen to me when I talk is so completely backwards that it’s actually idiotic. I do appreciate these polite (and often clearly practical) “gestures of good faith” — and it’s not very feminist to tell me how I should want to be treated.
— Katherine Timpf is a reporter for National Review Online.
"..am I gonna get chased by a broom if I answer?"
Got it. Men are always wrong, always sexist, and always mysoginist. And womyn wonder why they're finding it difficult to rope men into marriage?
Can't be friendly, mean or ignore. So what are our non-sexist options Jin?
Treat ladies like hookers and hookers like ladies.
Sounds like feminist "logic."
What utter b.s. It simply means that you care for her comfort, more than your own.
I remember an older guy a couple of years ago on the radio who decided to start dating again.
He said he is confused as the first date he held the door open for his first date and she told him she can open the door herself.
The next date with another woman he did not open the door for her and got told he was not a gentleman.
He went on to state that back in his dating was so much easier
Further proof that the majority of pseudo-intellectuals infest non STEM deoartments.
The STEM folks have their iwn problems with the glow-bull climate change clowns.
I agree with the title. I am sexist. Men and women are different and I treat them differently. The normal ones love it.
I can’t help NOW members with their goofy world view, though.
When a man does a nice thing for me, I say “thank you”. I’ve been told I’m shameless, but I figure that older women who do the same and have ended up well must know a thing or three :)
Mars.
Great. So the only way to not be sexist as a man is to curl up and die.
I’ll explain this to my wife next time she tells me (to my surprise) that I wasn’t thoughtful about something.
No one cares what lesbians think.
“Other warning signs of “benevolent sexism” include being friendly and chatty to women — “
I’m guilty of this medical condition and I have a problem. Help! I diagnosed myself with chauvinism and now this. Where’s the closest Odumbocare clinic?
Fine.
I am a married, professional, White, religious, Father of 3.
I am a Sexist, a Racist, a Capitalist, and I think modern liberalism is the very definition of a mental disorder and their actions are crimes against Humanity.
So? What are you whiny, panty-waisted, mental midget, Left-wing jackasses going to do about it?
Keep in mind, I’m also a gun nut. So be civil, or else...
Au contraire, in today's society, women are valued much higher than men.
More and more men are just no longer engaging with women.
Once the male attention dries up, then they start to get an attitude adjustment.
HG is no sexist, then. :)
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