Sounds like a mall:
Posted on 10/06/2014 3:34:25 AM PDT by markomalley
Modern feminists seem dedicated to teaching us uncultured regular people that many of our favorite common expressions are actually offensive slurs. “You guys.” “Oh, man!” “Man up!” They say these phrases create a male-centric society that oppresses women sexually and professionally, whether we intend them to or not.
You might think that these language-vetting philosopher-cops would make sure that their movement’s own language was coherent and appropriate. But you would be wrong.
As part of its “Sex Week,” the Women’s Resource Center at the University of New Mexico invited a “sex and relationship expert” slash pornographic puppeteer to teach workshops with titles such as “How to Be a Gentleman and Get Laid,” “Negotiating Successful Threesomes,” and “BJs and Beyond.”
Watching a man use puppets to demonstrate sexual encounters might not do much good in terms of achieving the program’s goal of promoting “healthy relationships,” but the women’s center stood behind the events.
The center, which claims to be based on a “feminist model of empowerment,” insisted the workshops would “help prevent sexual assault” — even though their descriptions actually used the same kind of language that feminist activists have been claiming causes sexual assault.
The “Negotiating Successful Threesomes” workshop, for example, promises to teach students to “negotiate boundaries . . . to make your next menage a trios tré bien! [sic].”
“Negotiate boundaries?” Wait, doesn’t that sound like “rape culture”? I thought sexual “boundaries” were whatever the woman says they are, and that any further discussion, questioning, or “negotiating” beyond that was unacceptable and contributed to a culture of pervasive sexual violence.
Then to that, add that that the “sex week” included a workshop on how to perform oral sex on males but not one teaching how to perform oral sex on females (a clear manifestation of the feminist critique that our culture is focused on the sexual satisfaction of males only), and it seems as though this group just might not have any coherent message whatsoever
The workshop instructor, Reid Mihalko, has worked closely with top “sex positive” feminist activists such as Susie Bright (described on a site of the Cornell University Library, which has placed her works in its Rare And Collected Manuscripts division, as “the Pauline Kael of porn”) — and yet even Mihalko couldn’t adhere to its impossibly strict language rules. Feminists could argue that it was okay for Reid to use the phrase “negotiating boundaries” because he meant it in an open-dialogue, sex-positive way and never intended to hurt anyone. But here’s the thing: You can’t argue that and also insist that a guy who says “Oh, man!” when he loses his keys is oppressing people whether he intends to or not.
Amid intense controversy surrounding the content of the workshops, the school has since apologized for spending student fees on them. But the women’s center has responded only by saying that it intended for the events to promote sexual health.
Apparently, the language vetters didn’t do such a good job vetting the language of their own initiatives. This movement, so obsessed with semantics that it equates the use of longstanding common phrases to oppression against women, might want to be more vigilant — or, better yet, focus on more important issues.
Politically unacceptable words are defined contextually. They’re only unacceptable if one of the non-cognoscenti use them. If you’re with the “in” crowd anything you say is automatically approved. Not knowing this is sexist and anti-woman.
Seriously, no on is stopping them from saying whatever they want to. They are free to “put on big-girl dresses”, “act like a woman”, “Fem up”, “Grow a pair of boobs”, “Act like they've got a pair of boobs”, etc.
Curiously, these feminists identify testosterone for male aggressiveness, but then get their panties in a wad (see what I did there) when the language reflects that view.
All of this paid for with taxpayer monies, no less.
I seem to recall that about a decade ago, the big feminist empowerment schtick was something called the “V_____ monologues”, which reduced women to nothing more than ambulatory genitals.
I also remember the bra-burning of the late 1960s/early 1970s, which was supposed to demonstrate that women are not sex objects.
“Feminists” are all over the place on this.
Oh, man. What are we going to do about this, guys? If we don’t stand up and man up, the feminists are going to leave the planet or something.
Among the over-60s, the biggest feminists I know are in long term marriages, have never worked a real job and are financially quite comfortable, due to their husband’s income and their father’s estates. Their feminism has seemed to me be centered on their own ability to have extra-marital relationships and to shill for female democrat candidates. They are the least oppressed people I know.
CELBRATE BOSSY !
Where are the “feminists” on the continuing moozlum artrosities against women? Crickets... Until they speak up about that, they can take a leap.
Bossy pride... We should have parade, heh.
“How to be a Gentleman and Get Laid?”
“Negotiating Successful Threesomes”?
“BJs and Beyond?”
This from a so-called Women’s Resource Center at the University of New Mexico?
It sounds like a workshop for whores. And these “women” wonder why men don’t take them seriously.
Empowerment-definition: To give power or authority to.
If these battleaxes are so independent, why don't they take their authority? Why are they always looking for someone to GIVE it to them?
Sounds like a mall:
Reminds me of “the rules” -
one of which - any attempt to communicate these rules is against “the rules”.
Encouraging and enabling men to be irresponsible.
If men had to be “marriage material” before getting sex, imagine the society we’d have.
Yeah, we should show more respect for these babes.
try this on for size, ladies.....
BIT@H PLEASE...
Negotiating "boundaries" means destroying the barriers established by "the Patriarchy" including concepts like MONOGAMY.
Radical feminism, pushing the same "smash the patriarchy, smash monogamy, smash the state" rhetoric they have since the glory days of late 60s US Communism.
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