Posted on 04/18/2019 9:34:05 AM PDT by rickmichaels
Don’t even bother here. This is part of the He Man Woman Haters Club that resides on FR. It’ll just get uglier if you respond. Just watch, lol.
We know or knew hundreds of immigrant men (mostly brought into USA by American corporations so they wouldn’t have to hire qualified American citizens, see the H-1B program).
A number of these fellows wanted to get married. They looked around at our American women and decided to go home (Communist China, India, Iran, BanglaDesh, VietNam, etc.).
Go home to get a wife, that is. Usually their families helped them find a good wife. And the fellows agreed that their new wives would have been good ones, had they stayed in their own countries. They could have had good family lives. There.
But, just as soon as the women arrived in USA...they changed. They started making demands for more and more material goods and fancier houses and cars, and within a couple of weeks they had “stocked up” on charge cards, not just Visa and Mastercard but also some of the fanciest (most expensive) department stores like Sax, Nordstroms, Nieman Narcus. Unhappiness ensured with divorces not far behind.
Whatever this “American social disease” is, it is catching and it spreads very quickly
“This is the result of the man-hating (misandry) that saturates our institutions (law, education, military, religion, etc.)”
That men themselves have created. Men gave the women the right to vote.
Single men will ‘listen’ to whatever women they meet want to talk about....because their vision is on the end result they intend to have. Then it’s NEXT! There’s always another net to throw and plenty to take the bait...freely.
Woman are in that situation too. And we are not all crazy. Some of us are loving and generous and got taken by a man who suffered a refuse-to-dx-or-get-help mental illness and who didn’t do what he promised to help support the kids etc.
I’m done with marriage too; it doesn’t offer me anything. I am sad to be raising the kids alone but I love them. I am not bringing a new husband into their world. I just wish I could have demo’ed a great relationship for them.
“It is much easier for a husband to love his wife when she respects him, and likewise, a wife to respect her husband when he loves her.
The problem is that too many withhold one or the other if their spouse doesn’t hold up their end, and it becomes a downward spiral.”
I have come to realize that that is exactly right. There’s a reason the Creator of each of us commanded men to “love” their wives, but wives to “respect” their husbands. A quick google search on the top emotional needs reveals that a number of studies have shown that “respect” is at the top of the list for men, and “love” is number 1 for women.
Women ignore that at the peril of any relationship or commitment.
“Why are men “afraid” of commitment?”
Who would not be afraid of committing yourself to getting screwed?
“Whatever this “American social disease” is, it is catching and it spreads very quickly”
That’s really sad, and really believable.
The messaging from the left is very powerful, and incredibly toxic.
Many men who want a divorce have figured out that it’s easy to get a woman to be the one to file. All they have to do is behave really bad - the situation becomes intolerable and they get the divorce they want without accepting responsibility for the decision.
Keep an open mind on a 2nd marriage. Just have a long engagement so you know how they’ll react during hard times or stress. My 2nd is now into its 40th year. He used to cringe and almost cry when I’d duck if he’d move too fast. It took awhile for me to stop doing that. He’s a keeper and we love each other dearly. He even adopted the boys the day after our wedding.
Not only are they afraid of long-term commitment, which one should not have to think long about if the person is the One, but some are psychologically capable of keeping any commitment at all.
If they’re supposed to be somewhere, they don’t arrive, or they arrive late ALWAYS and sometimes VERY late. Sometimes they call to say they can’t make it when you have already traveled an hour and a half through NYC traffic to get there. Sometimes they don’t show up and don’t call at all. If they say they will call you, they don’t. They can only permit themselves to call when they haven’t said they would.
I don’t know what this is called in psychology. I would say the person is signaling, “Don’t ever depend on me. I can’t take care of myself, much less anyone else.”
I initiated the divorce from my wife when I found out she was having an affair. In the course of investigating I found out there had been another a couple of years earlier. There was no way I was going to stay with her, an affair is the line you don’t cross with me.
I had irrefutable evidence of the affair, got an attorney and told her I wanted a divorce. She went to an attorney and responded that she wanted everything I had. I had been the sole breadwinner and brought a significant amount of assets into the marriage, she only brought debt. To make a long story short she didn’t get everything, I actually came out pretty well in the divorce. It taught me that I never want to go through that again though. I’ve worked hard all my life (I’m now 50) and amassed a comfortable nest egg. Standing in front of a family court judge when you’re 45 years old who has the authority to completely bankrupt you and hand your life’s work to an adulterous soon to be ex-wife is not a comforting feeling and one I don’t want to feel again. It didn’t turn out that way but I’ve seen it happen enough to know many judges have no qualms whatsoever about destroying a man’s life in favor of an ex who as often as not has been unfaithful. Adultery doesn’t matter, they can cheat the entire marriage and still walk away with everything you own. That’s wrong and I’m not going to put myself in a position to be subject to an immoral legal system that way.
Agreed. Divorce teaches men, no good deed goes unpunished.... no involvement with an ex once the kids are grown is the only way to be.
#MeToo #BelieveAllWomen
are not
Who hates women? I love them. Next!
BINGO!
What man would die for a woman who expects nothing less than his unconditional love while offering him nothing more than sex?
Been there 2X.
Never again.
I’m single forever.
Only a man of such low character that would let his sexual urges dictate his life.
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