Posted on 07/14/2018 6:03:20 AM PDT by TermLimitsforAll
So my brother passed away at 59 after an 8 year battle with ALS. I hadn't seen him in over 2 years primarily based upon my beliefs and their opposition to those beliefs. I really didn't want my children around to be honest. That said he was still my brother and the friction wasn't with him at all. It was his kid and wife.
I had commented about my beliefs on gay marriage and they were strongly opposed to my opposition. His whole family were strong Hillary supporters as well. In fact they moved to Atlanta from the land of fruits and ferries (California).
I called to express my condolences and to find out the arrangements for his funeral only to be shut down and was told to not call, text or otherwise contact them forever. This coming from a so called Christian family. My brother had a baptism in March of this year, makes me feel comforted by the way.
My experience here has cemented my belief that these folks, liberals in general, are so angry that it doesn't matter if you're family or not. If you don't subscribe to their beliefs you are the enemy and nothing will change that. I held back on going off on my niece that was the instigator of the whole thing. I figured it best to leave it alone while they're grieving.
I will not be going to the funeral out of respect for my brother, I'll pay my respects later alone and just continue to pray for him and his family. What gets me is the fact that they don't want any of our family (mother, and 3 brothers with children) to be in attendance of the funeral. What kind of sinkhole have we evolved to in our society that my brothers own mother is not welcome at a funeral?
Been there done that...have a sister who is the same way. Mailed back presents from dad to the grandkids, told mom she couldn’t see the grandkids because she was going to vote for Trump.
Verbally abused mom who was in hospital and dying of cancer.....never reconciled with dad who she was estranged from already....
Both of our parents died within last year and she didn’t show up to the family graveside service for mom and when dad was fighting for his life in hospitals didn’t fly out and reconcile or day goodbye.
Leftism is definitely a dogma and a religion for some.
Gads
I completely neglected to offer my condolences and prayers for his entire family to termlimits for the difficult loss of his brother.
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I’m very sorry for your loss. Pray for your enemies, even if it’s just “God bless that hateful woman.” It will help YOU.
As a minister I have often said that funerals have brought the best in families, and also the worst. It will probably be fruitless to go through the minister/priest. My experience is that preachers don’t like to get in the middle of long standing problems within families. He might even be as radical as them. Two suggestions might help.
1. You and your mother might try going by the funeral home a couple of hours before the service. Usually the family doesn’t arrive till close to time. It would allow you to approach the casket, have a last few minutes, and be gone before there can be a scene. If you didn’t care about stirring things you could always sign the visitors book, with the phrase “We still love you” by your name. Who knows, it might even melt their hearts.
2. You could try coming in right at the beginning of the service and sit in the back, then leaving before being seen. This would avoid an uproar.
If nothing else works pray for them that their hearts might be softened. Jesus taught us to do good toward those who hate and despise us.
My deepest sympathies and prayers for you and your family in this time of grief.
This happens even without politics or TDS.
Family differences turn into feuds and then into retribution schemes. Your family is not the only family around with problems.
The same thing happened in my wife's family, my in-laws. Her brother turned against my wife and their mother a few years back with no explanation.
He wouldn't call his mom and refused her calls. He wouldn't come to her 90th birthday celebration and then the ultimate insult, is he refused to attend his own mom's funeral who passed away at 92.
His problem is he's pussy-whipped and married to an obsessive, manipulative, controlling wife who keeps him on a very short leash "or else". She doesn't like his family and threatens him with her rath if he calls or sees them. She's on medications for her loony behavior but refuses to take them most of the time. It's like she's on the warpath when she's off them. And he's not man enough to tell her to stick it.
Sad that this happens but it is not uncommon. It is not always about politics or the current Trump Derangement Syndrome engulfing the liberals. It is about immature, dysfunctional people.
And they walk and live among us. And some of them just happen to be family members.
My condolences. Prayers to you and your entire family.
I’m so very sorry. Prayers for all.
Sorry for your loss. I have some family members who suffer from leftist cognitive dissonance. There’s simply no room for rational discussion. So much for liberal inclusiveness. It’s their way or the highway.
I’m very sorry for your loss. We have family members who are much like yours. It’s hard.
” What kind of sinkhole have we evolved to in our society that my brothers own mother is not welcome at a funeral?”
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Are you sure this is all about politics?
They just sound like mean people and maybe something else is going on.
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You call him a fool and attack him based on a broad interpretation off how and why he did not see his brother the last two years. You do not know the context, the conversations, nor the infractions the rest of his family have had. You could have invited him to consider how his actions might have contributed to the problem. Instead, you went on full attack mode on a grieving man.
You are more than a fool. You acted as an evil, self-righteous minion of Satan when you spoke this way. Cry out to God for mercy to heal your heart.
My two idiot siblings started their “we’lll take you to court” nonsense the moment my mother was cremated. I had everything arranged...disposition of all her assets, sale of her house, all her bills paid and the remainder split evenly by us three. That’s what was in her will. I held her power of attorney in the last years of her life. The two executors names in her will here both too old and ill to serve. So I arranged for an attorney to open the estate, petition the court to.have me made the executor. Then they started. “We’ll take you to court!!!”
So I sent everything to my welfare recipient sister and told her good luck. I had everything I wanted from mom—my memories—and they were free.
That was two years ago this November. My sister had yet to pay any bills, sell her house or even open up the estate. My brother, who is on his second Russian mail order bride, hasn’t taken any action either.
Whatever money I might have gotten from her estate doesn’t matter to me. I simply refused to get involved with either one of them.
Sometimes, the best thing is to walk away. Your brother is in a better place and you’ll see him again when it’s your turn. His family must live with their decisions. Screw them, you did the right thing.
May want to pull on the reins of that mighty high horse a bit. The person is grieving and we don’t know all the details.
I've got two brothers in California who are hard boiled libs. You're exactly right about how politics ranks higher than blood family for them.
When my dad passed last August, all the siblings gathered at my one lib brother's house after the service. At some point during the evening, he asked me (in front of everyone) "What do you think about Trump?"
Without hesitation, I said, "He's a good man."
You would have thought I cursed his family or something. He jumped out of his chair, screaming, "Go home! Go home!"
I would have been glad to, but I was 1,500 miles away from home, with no personal transport that evening. What got me worst of all, is that it didn't matter to him that we had just buried our father just hours before.
You also made a choice to poke your ugly finger in the eye of a person dealing with the loss of a sibling. What a complete and total jerk wad you literally are. This person had NO choice in the choices liberal minds make. Yeah, I expect you to turn your cheek because you asked for it.
Bro is gone, the end.
No biggie or loss with others they were his choice not yours and they obviously suck, no loss move on.
I’m so sorry to hear. That’s very sad.
Your Mom needs to go if she desires.The others can make their own judgment call
Mom birthed him not his wife.
Wacko wife has no say in this IMO
liberalism is a mental disorder and can also be exacerbated by other mental problems
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