Posted on 07/14/2018 6:03:20 AM PDT by TermLimitsforAll
So my brother passed away at 59 after an 8 year battle with ALS. I hadn't seen him in over 2 years primarily based upon my beliefs and their opposition to those beliefs. I really didn't want my children around to be honest. That said he was still my brother and the friction wasn't with him at all. It was his kid and wife.
I had commented about my beliefs on gay marriage and they were strongly opposed to my opposition. His whole family were strong Hillary supporters as well. In fact they moved to Atlanta from the land of fruits and ferries (California).
I called to express my condolences and to find out the arrangements for his funeral only to be shut down and was told to not call, text or otherwise contact them forever. This coming from a so called Christian family. My brother had a baptism in March of this year, makes me feel comforted by the way.
My experience here has cemented my belief that these folks, liberals in general, are so angry that it doesn't matter if you're family or not. If you don't subscribe to their beliefs you are the enemy and nothing will change that. I held back on going off on my niece that was the instigator of the whole thing. I figured it best to leave it alone while they're grieving.
I will not be going to the funeral out of respect for my brother, I'll pay my respects later alone and just continue to pray for him and his family. What gets me is the fact that they don't want any of our family (mother, and 3 brothers with children) to be in attendance of the funeral. What kind of sinkhole have we evolved to in our society that my brothers own mother is not welcome at a funeral?
That is very sad.
First, condolences for you in the loss of your brother at a young age.
Second, be thankful for him that he’s free from the hateful witch.
Do not deny your mother the burial of her son" Sorry for your lost. God Bless
Some just can’t handle the Truth.
I can relate, I share an office with an extremely liberal cousin and I'm going to have to walk away from it. There is no working with these people, no compromise, no discussion. They live in their own little world. Back to the home office for the sake of my sanity.
Prayers for your brother and may he rest in peace.
Go to the funeral and take your mother, just my opinion. I’m so sorry for the loss of your brother. This scenario is heartbreaking.
Take your mother to her son’s funeral. And your brothers should be there, as well.
Your brother is gone, the funeral is for the benefit of the grieving family, not your brother. For your grieving, do what you need to, like have a private ceremony at your Church, go to the grave-site later. Avoiding his wife and child is appropriate and skipping the funeral is a good idea.
My sister-in-law tried to pull that crap on us when my brother died but I just ignored her and attended.
What are they going to do: piss and moan?
Let them humiliate themselves.
I’m sorry for your loss. I lost an older brother recently and am finding it more difficult than losing my parents.
Some people are petty. All they are doing, by excluding you and your family, is showing how small they really are, and how small and hateful their minds are- literally, hate-full.
It’s only a reflection on them.
Our Blessed Lord foretold nothing less.
btw - I love your handle Mrs. Infool7 has been pushing seven year term limits for every government paycheck. You get seven year max lifetime limit on any government payroll, no pention, no extended benifits, zip, nada, NOTHING! Go directly back into the private sector, do not pass go, do not collect $200. It has not made her very popular.
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I say this a lot;
“Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”
A lot of people are drinking the poison of hate, and are themselves dying. It’s really sad. There was not this level of deranged hate towards Obama.
I want you to know that you are not alone in this sort of 'shunning' and derangement syndrome treatment. I recently (last 2.5 years) lost two older siblings from instant deaths in their very early 60s. Both at different times. The first went fine--no talk of politics etc. The second was so bad that I am now estranged from specific family members from very inappropriate treatment of me that came out of no where.
Comments were made. I did not engage. They continued. The people commenting turned into rabid dogs when I turned to them and told them to not speak to me in that way. they continued. I made it clear as a result they were no longer welcome in my life. It was a sad day. All I did was go home for a funeral of a sibling.
My boundary did not come from a place of anger. Nor did I feel it extreme. The behavior was so disrespectful and violating. I had to take care of myself. I was not mean. Just clear. I pray for them. And for myself I pray to not let my hurt and anger turn into poison inside of me. But to focus on how I can both take care of myself and be filled with God's spirit and direction in my life.
So very sorry for your loss. I recommend--since you are not going to be attending a funeral--that you find a ritual either with yourself and/or your other family members in which to mourn his passing or celebrate his life.
Most importantly honor your grief and loss and do not let their poison eat away at you.
Amen!
I am so sorry for the loss of your brother.
I can related to the hatefulness of the left.
My own 36 y/o son, home-schooled and my pride and joy, has not spoken to me since the night before the election because he rightfully thought I would vote for Trump.
His elderly father, 83 y/o, is in the hospital for the second time in a month, and not in very good health at all. I texted to ask if he wanted updates on his father’s health with no response.
Ironically, his leftist girlfriend posted on her Facebook page how awful it is for parents to be separated from their children at the border. Go figure.
You are a blood relative who should not be banned from the funeral by the wife who is not.
The Othering...
New American Civil War and the claiming of virtue.
The ideological positions in our american society no longer share the same visions. The polarization of our society has escalated to the point of no return, with both sides claiming virtue. There is a critical mass developing with the conclusion that the constitution impedes their vision rather than supporting it.
So, I would suggest that we already are within the New American Civil War. If we were, we would not know it. And if we were it might be something too terrible for many minds to embrace.
Including mine.
Lots of great comments and posts here. I hope you find comfort in them and direction if you so desire. May your brother rest in peace and prayers for you and your family.
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