Money Manners: If my Date Doesn’t Reach for Her Wallet, What Should I Do?

San Jose Mercury News ^ | August 17, 2017 | EANNE FLEMING and LEONARD SCHWARZ

[Cementjungle]

but I’m uncertain who pays for what

Dude, if you can't afford her Big Mac and diet Coke then perhaps you shouldn't be dating.

[wardaddy]

If you expect her to pay for dinner at 50 and she’s likely younger

Then be prepared to have masturbation as your best pal

Women who date old men like me

Expect to be treated

Period

[Chainmail]

"Given your lack of reassortment skills, have you considered the monastic life? "

Wasn't directing that to you, Nick - that was aimed at the moron writing to Miss Manners..

[hinckley buzzard]

Here's one you need to watch out for: Once when I was young and foolish I went with a beautiful young woman and paid for everything. Meals, hotel, airfares, everything. Then one day she said, "How about if you let me get the check for dinner tonight?" I said sure, thanks. And let her. Afterward she was totally steamed and insulted that I actually let her buy a dinner (once, after several years.)

Lesson learned: when it comes to money, never trust a woman. If you want the relationship to stay on an even keel, just pay the freight and chalk it up.

[TheWriterTX]

The one who asks pays. My husband always paid when we dated and still does to this day, but since I am an inexpensive date (don’t drink alcohol and prefer salads) he doesn’t seem to mind eating steak while I eat the pre-dinner greens.

[Radix]

Fun thread, but I must admit, I have no idea what ‘a Shoney’s’ is. Steak house or something, or fast food?

[Vendome]

No, I was expected to celebrate its centennial in a couple years, which will probably be the theme-stick, craptastic And compelling reason for electing Fauxcahontas in 2020...

[Vendome]

Anyway, I would have, as all good things have come from Republican initiatives.

All civil rights the era 13th 14th 15th amendment on and on and on and on

[TheWriterTX]

I’m glad you got rid of her. Not all women are that way. My husband still pays, but since my salary covers all the household bills, his salary is the discretionary money; otherwise I would pick up the tab.

[TheWriterTX]

Shoneys is an inexpensive eatery typically found in the south. They have an amazing buffet breakfast.

[dfwgator]

Shoneys is an inexpensive eatery typically found in the south.

IIRC they used to be called, "Sambo's".

[atc23]

I'm 57, I aways pay.

She won't respect you and she's got you pegged as a free meal. Not you specifically but as a rule of thumb - dinner is WAY out of line for a first date. She's going for a paper cup of water on date one or she's not going.

[Nifster]

It depends on who asked who out....the asker always pays.....unless it has been agreed upon before hand.

[Billthedrill]

Whoever gives the invitation pays.

Yep. And that individual sticking his or her date with the tab deserves whatever happens next. Which is very unlikely to be happy.

[hinckley buzzard]

LOL A Shoney's is the Southern equivalent to something like a Denny's.No big deal but not McDonalds either.

[TheWriterTX]

Sounds like a good woman who appreciates a gentleman. Well done. Hope shes a keeper.

[Nifster]

Then she is a wanna be

[tumblindice]

Why, Shoneys is the home of the All Star Breakfast and all you can eat pancakes!
IHOP? Denneys? Big plastic menu?

I’ve been hitched so long, 30+ years, my date small talk would prolly be something like:
“So, didja get enough to eat? Are you full?”
“You have to go to the bathroom ... again?”

I miss Golden Corral. It was all-you-can-eat of EVERYthing. It’s a car parts store now. Believe a big part of the problem was failing to refrigerate their food.

[fella]

That’s the manners I learned as a child in the 50s.

[vooch]

you wanna get some lovin’ ?

you pay for dinner