Money Manners: If my Date Doesn’t Reach for Her Wallet, What Should I Do?

San Jose Mercury News ^ | August 17, 2017 | EANNE FLEMING and LEONARD SCHWARZ

[CodeToad]

“gracious date.”

There is the key term. Manners are no longer common.

[CodeToad]

“Women who date old men like me”

So, are ya braggin’? ‘cause I can respect that if you are.

[wardaddy]

The old part

I’m neither rich or single

[Texas Eagle]

Thank you. 23 years and running.

[Georgia Girl 2]

Mr. GG2 is a like minded man. :-)

[Texas Eagle]

Glad to hear it. I don’t know if he grew up in the confused era of the late 60s and 70s like I did, but, if so, it’s a miracle there are any of us at all.

[Georgia Girl 2]

Yeh tell me about it. :-)

[MacMattico]

That’s a pretty good plan.

[MacMattico]

Thanks :)

[Flaming Conservative]

If a man invites me out on a dinner date, I’m going to expect him to pay. If I ask a man out to dinner, I would expect to pay. Once you’re in an exclusive dating relationship, whomever can afford to pay can pay.

[nickcarraway]

Do you ask a man out to dinner?

[Flaming Conservative]

Actually, I’m happily married, but when my husband and I were dating, he paid at first, then if I suggested we go out to eat, I’d offer to pay. Usually he paid anyway, but since his job was seasonal, I had no trouble paying when I knew his work wasn’t as steady at times. But then, this was marriage number two, for both of us, and we were 50 and 51. We hit it off immediately, had a several month engagement, then got married. But very early in our relationship, we fell in love. But I made it clear, as soon as we knew it was the real deal, that “I want to be married, and we’re not getting any younger, so if you don’t want to get married, tell me now. It’ll break my heart, but I got along without you for fifty years, and if I have to, I can get along without you for the next fifty years. It’s up to you”. Needless to say, he decided he wanted the same thing. But in an intense relationship like that, I took the stance that every thing I have is yours, and vice versa. I could never win at poker...or could I? ;-)