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Hugh Hefner’s dirty little secret
LIFE SITE ^ | Jonathon van Maren

Posted on 10/09/2014 9:42:04 AM PDT by Morgana

Hugh Hefner has been idolized by millions of men of dubious morals for his “Playboy” lifestyle—his huge mansion, never-ending stream of celebrity guests, and, of course, the girls. He is considered the ultimate playboy, the silk-pajamaed icon of the Sexual Revolution, the man who brought “free love” to the free market and made a killing.

He’s also sexually dysfunctional.

In her emotionally mauling book Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality, researcher Gail Dines writes how the infamous TV show "The Girls Next Door," which started in 2005, "provides a sanitized version of life at the Playboy mansion, never showing the reality of the experiences for the young women who live and sleep with eighty-three-year-old Hefner."

Perhaps most revealingly, she points out how Izabella St James, one of Hefner's 'ex-girlfriends,' has written that while Hefner would often often have unprotected sex with multiple women, he could not reach sexual completion without using pornography and stimulating himself.

That’s right. Porn, the most viral manifestation of the Sexual Revolution, is reducing millions of men to pathetic dependents desperately scrolling through thousands of pictures and videos—and causing many of them to become impotent. Even a man with a non-stop stream of beautiful women sleeping with him, one of the most easily recognizable sex icons of our time, cannot get off without porn.

But it is us, supposedly, who are “anti-sex.”

Those of us who hold to a Judeo-Christian view of sexual ethics are invariably accused of being “prudes” or “anti-sex.” Rejecting the Sexual Revolution and the host of new sexually transmitted diseases, incalculable amount of psychological physical pain, broken marriages, porn addictions, and aborted and dismembered “love” children that it brought with it, it seems, is the primary way to loudly declare yourself a cultural heretic.

Let me break it down. We, apparently, are the ones who are “anti-sex” because we elevate sex as an action of such significance that it should take place in a loving, committed context - marriage - one that is, incidentally, also the best context in which to raise children. We recognize that sex is an extraordinarily powerful human experience, one that we toy with or abuse at our peril. But the Sexual Revolutionaries insist that this is archaic and foolish. “More sex,” they say, “more sex, all the time and with whomever you’d like.”

Someone should make these people take economics. Basic rule: If you commodify something, you cheapen it. We’ve put cash prices on intimate human experiences, and we’ve created an industry that amounts to nothing more than a trade in human flesh. I’m no anti-capitalist, but some things should not be bought and sold. But now that millions have been pimped out by the Sexual Revolution, we do just that. We treat sex like a game or a toy. And, like over-enthusiastic children, we’ve broken it.

Here are just a very brief sampling of a few recent headlines:

- “Porn causing erectile dysfunction in young men”—Global News - “Internet pornography destroying men’s ability to perform with real women”—Daily Mail - “Does porn contribute to erectile dysfunction?”—Psychology Today

I often wonder why more people don’t see the sad irony in this. Like thirsty men and women guzzling salt water, we simply inflame our lusts with pornography, dehydrating ourselves of the true human intimacy we crave. Rather than recognizing it for the poison that it is, we claim that porn is a sex aid, or carefree recreation, or even a tool for helping a flagging marriage. Clinging to this cultural delusion is doing precisely the opposite of what the Sexual Revolutionaries promised us it would do: It’s killing sex.

Yet when people try to point this out—from self-described radical feminist Gail Dines to the Christian scholars who warned that this would happen before we even pried open Pandora’s Box—it is they who get called “anti-sex.”

Hugh Hefner built an empire selling the bodies of young, attractive women and men to millions, but his cash has not stopped him from becoming enslaved by his own product. When I consider that the very man who is envied by millions for the sexual lifestyle he leads can himself only find pleasure in the pale substitute for human intimacy he markets to the masses, it brings to mind something Christopher Hitchens once said, when responding to a Marxist in his audience. The quotation perfectly fits this circumstance as well.

“Well, there you have it, ladies and gentlemen. There you have it," Hitchens said. "You see how far the termites have spread, and how long and well they’ve dined.”

And so they have.


TOPICS: Education; Society
KEYWORDS: dirtyoldman; moralabsolutes; porn; sexualdysfunction
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To: Lazamataz

Wanna see my pencil trick?


81 posted on 10/09/2014 11:03:19 AM PDT by Vermont Lt (Ebola: Death is a lagging indicator.)
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To: Morgana

Porn came BEFORE.....that’s why we have no morals left.


82 posted on 10/09/2014 11:03:30 AM PDT by Ann Archy (Abortion.....the Human Sacrifice to the god of Convenience.)
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To: Morgana

83 posted on 10/09/2014 11:03:46 AM PDT by Lazamataz (First we beat the Soviet Union. Then we became them. We have no 'news media', only a Soviet Pravda.)
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To: Ann Archy
You’re incorrigible!!!

I've heard that. :)

84 posted on 10/09/2014 11:04:23 AM PDT by Lazamataz (First we beat the Soviet Union. Then we became them. We have no 'news media', only a Soviet Pravda.)
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To: CodeToad

We won’t go to hell because of using the Federal Reserve!!!! OMG!!!


85 posted on 10/09/2014 11:04:25 AM PDT by Ann Archy (Abortion.....the Human Sacrifice to the god of Convenience.)
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To: Vermont Lt

Sex abuse is NOT funny! These “dirty old men” talking about these teachers like they are heros when they abused a boy at school. Easily offended? you are kidding right?


86 posted on 10/09/2014 11:04:41 AM PDT by Morgana ( Always a bit of truth in dark humor.)
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To: Resettozero

That’s the whole point.

Not to get off on a rant, but in the last two weeks every uptight white christian grand ma got a computer and started coming onto FR.

You cannot make a single comment that is the least bit “blue” without having someone get all offended.

And this is not gross stuff, nor is it pornographic, or using filthy language.

Its stuff that if I said it at a cocktail party would either get a laugh, or a snicker.

Perhaps thats the problem. I go to cocktail parties.


87 posted on 10/09/2014 11:05:44 AM PDT by Vermont Lt (Ebola: Death is a lagging indicator.)
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To: Morgana

When the Church becomes corrupted and preaches false doctrine, it gives over its members to be tricked, used, enslaved, bought and sold.

2 Peter 2

“1 But there were false prophets also among the people, even as there shall be false teachers among you, who privily shall bring in damnable heresies, even denying the Lord that bought them, and bring upon themselves swift destruction.

2 And many shall follow their pernicious ways; by reason of whom the way of truth shall be evil spoken of.

3 And through covetousness shall they with feigned words make merchandise of you: whose judgment now of a long time lingereth not, and their damnation slumbereth not.”


88 posted on 10/09/2014 11:05:44 AM PDT by PieterCasparzen (We have to fix things ourselves)
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To: Morgana
you ever notice that it’s usually the women on FR who seem to notice this?

Sexist invalid observation.
89 posted on 10/09/2014 11:05:54 AM PDT by Resettozero
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To: Vermont Lt
Ta da! .... it's... GONE!
90 posted on 10/09/2014 11:06:42 AM PDT by Lazamataz (First we beat the Soviet Union. Then we became them. We have no 'news media', only a Soviet Pravda.)
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To: Morgana

I did not mean on THOSE threads. I find them stupid and juvenile. You might have found me joining in years ago...but as my daughter grew older, that stuff got less funny. Sometimes it takes time, but eventually I get it.

No, I am talking about other threads.


91 posted on 10/09/2014 11:07:29 AM PDT by Vermont Lt (Ebola: Death is a lagging indicator.)
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To: Vermont Lt
That’s the whole point.

Not to get off on a rant, but in the last two weeks every uptight white christian grand ma got a computer and started coming onto FR.

You cannot make a single comment that is the least bit “blue” without having someone get all offended.

And this is not gross stuff, nor is it pornographic, or using filthy language.

Its stuff that if I said it at a cocktail party would either get a laugh, or a snicker.

Perhaps thats the problem. I go to cocktail parties.


Times are tough all over.

(Saw that little anti-christian snipe.)
92 posted on 10/09/2014 11:08:29 AM PDT by Resettozero
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To: Vermont Lt

There was an article a while back about the mansion being in downright disgusting condition. I mean seriously foul, they never clean the place up, frat house condition. Shine a black light on the walls and floors and it looks like a Jackson Pollock painting* level contamination.

No way I’d go there.

(* line appropriated from GOTG)


93 posted on 10/09/2014 11:09:37 AM PDT by tanknetter
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To: Resettozero; Lazamataz
That's what I tried to tell HumberGunner V1.4...

Historical analysis guides the data filtering routine.

You can tell me all day and twice on Sunday but if'n I don't like it then it goes into the trash.

94 posted on 10/09/2014 11:11:43 AM PDT by humblegunner
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To: Vermont Lt
Too many folks are too easily offended.

It could also be that the joke, being of a poor, charmless and therefore unfunny variety, fails to amuse. When that happens, the joke teller might have the good grace to admit that he has, on this occasion, failed to be the wit he fancies himself, rather than continuing to declare that what he said was high brow hilarious and that he is surrounded by humorless schlubs, n'est-ce pas?




95 posted on 10/09/2014 11:13:18 AM PDT by definitelynotaliberal (Go, Cruz! Go!)
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To: Morgana

Just another old pervert the world is better off without


96 posted on 10/09/2014 11:13:53 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: PapaBear3625

Allegedly Bob Dole can.

Ok, bad visual, bad visual, bad visual!!! Quick, where’s the mind bleach?!?!?!?


97 posted on 10/09/2014 11:14:18 AM PDT by tanknetter
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To: Morgana
sexually dysfunctional

How is sexually dysfunctional defined for an eighty year old male?

98 posted on 10/09/2014 11:16:14 AM PDT by MosesKnows (Love many, trust few, and always paddle your own canoe.)
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To: Resettozero

if you tell me you are male and against porn it will be like music to my ears.


99 posted on 10/09/2014 11:17:11 AM PDT by Morgana ( Always a bit of truth in dark humor.)
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To: definitelynotaliberal

Or you just let it pass.

You do not jump on it like its a serious comment. And get all offended.

Oh well...I will start handing out Geritol coupons. That will make me popular around here.


100 posted on 10/09/2014 11:17:15 AM PDT by Vermont Lt (Ebola: Death is a lagging indicator.)
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