Posted on 08/12/2014 2:10:49 PM PDT by Theoria
Every culture has kids. Some just raise them better than others.
If there's one thing Tiger Moms have in common with those bringing up Bébé, it's that they both show us just how varied parenting styles can be.
Argentinian parents let their kids stay up until all hours, Japanese parents let 7-year-olds ride the subway by themselves and Danish parents leave their kids sleeping in a stroller on the curb while they go inside to shop or eat.
Some global parenting styles might make American parents cringe, but others sure could use a close study. Vietnamese mothers, for instance, get their kids out of diapers by nine months. How 'bout them apples?
Read on for a sampling of parenting lessons from around the world:
1) In Norway, kids nap outside even in sub-zero temperatures
In Norway, childhood is very institutionalized. When a kid turns 1 year old, he or she starts going to Barnehage (Norwegian for "children's garden"), which is basically state-subsidized daycare. Parents pay a few hundred dollars a month and their kids are taken care of from 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. Toddlers spend a ton of time outside at Barnehage, even in extremely cold temperatures. It's not uncommon to see kids bundled up outside during a Scandinavian winter, taking a nap in their strollers.
Even with the obvious benefits provided by the government in Norway, some parents complain about the lack of creativity in people's approaches to parenting. One American mother adjusting to raising kids in Norway wrote, "There's a sense that there's just one right way to do things. And everyone does it that way. In America there are different parenting styles — co-sleeping, attachment parenting, etc. Here there is just one way, more or less: all kids go to bed at 7, all attend the same style of preschool, all wear boots, all eat the same lunch … that’s the Norwegian way.”
2) Vietnamese moms train their babies to pee on command
Here's a good one. In Vietnam, parents train their babies to pee on command. Kind of like Pavlov with his salivating dogs. Except this is moms with peeing babies. The Chinese do it too apparently. Parents start by noticing when their baby starts peeing and making a little whistle sound. Soon enough, the baby starts to associate the whistle with peeing and voila!
Think this sounds a little odd? Or a little like someone is conflating a kid with a pet Schnauzer? Well, researchers say Vietnamese babies are usually out of diapers by nine months. What do you think now?
3) Traditionally, Kisii people in Kenya avoid looking their babies in the eye
Kisii, or Gussii, moms in Kenya carry their babies everywhere, but they don't indulge a baby's cooing. Rather when their babies start babbling, moms avert their eyes. It's likely to sound harsh to a Western sensibility, but within the context of Kisii culture, it makes more sense. Eye contact is an act bestowed with a lot of power. It's like saying, "you're in charge," which isn't the message parents want to send their kids. Researchers say Kisii kids are less attention-seeking as a result, so that's something.
4) Danish parents leave their kids on the curb while they go shopping
In Denmark, writes Mei-Ling Hopgood in "How Eskimos Keep Their Babies Warm," "children are frequently left outside to get frisk luft, or fresh air — something parents think is essential for health and hearty development — while caregivers dine and shop."
As you might imagine, this idea sends shivers down the spines of many parents in the United States. In New York, a couple (one of whom was Danish) was arrested for leaving their child outside a BBQ restaurant while they went inside to eat. ''I was just in Denmark and that's exactly what they do,'' Mariom Adler, a New Yorker out walking with her 2 1/2-year-old son, told the New York Times. ''We would see babies all over unattended. We were stunned, frankly. But Denmark also struck us as exceptionally civilized.''
5) In the Polynesian Islands, children take care of children
We're not talking any old big brother babysitting little sister here. We're talking organized kid collective.
Hopgood writes in her book that adults take the lead on caring for babies in Polynesia, but as soon as a child can walk, he or she is turned over to the care of other children. "Preschool-aged children learned to calm babies," she wrote, "and toddlers became self-reliant because they were taught that that was the only way they could hang out with the big kids."
Jane and James Ritchie, a husband and wife anthropology team, observed a similar phenomenon over decades in New Zealand and the Polynesian Islands. But they don't think it would fly in the United States. "Indeed in Western societies, the degree of child caretaking that seems to apply in most of Polynesia would probably be regarded as child neglect and viewed with some horror," they wrote in "Growing Up in Polynesia."
6) Japanese parents let their kids go out by themselves
Parents in Japan allow their kids a lot of independence after a certain age. It isn't uncommon for 7-year-olds and even 4-year-olds to ride the subway by themselves.
Christine Gross-Loh, author of "Parenting Without Borders," lives in Japan for part of each year, and when she's there she lets her kids run errands without her, taking the subway and wandering around town as they may. But she wouldn't dare do the same back in the United States. “If I let them out on their own like that in the US, I wouldn’t just get strange looks,” she told TED. “Somebody would call Child Protective Services.”
7) Spanish kids stay up la-ate!
Spanish families are focused on the social and interpersonal aspects of child development, according to Sara Harkness, a professor in the Department of Human Development and Family Studies at the University of Connecticut.
The idea of a child going to bed at 6:30 p.m. is totally alien to Spanish parents, Harkness told TED. “They were horrified at the concept,” she said. “Their kids were going to bed at 10 p.m.” so they could participate in family life in the evenings. The same is true in Argentina, according to Hopgood.
8) Aka pygmy fathers win the award
For the Aka people in central Africa, the male and female roles are virtually interchangeable. While the women hunt, the men mind the children. And vice versa.
Therein lies the rub, according to Professor Barry Hewlett, an American anthropologist. "There's a level of flexibility that's virtually unknown in our society," Hewlett told the Guardian. "Aka fathers will slip into roles usually occupied by mothers without a second thought and without, more importantly, any loss of status — there's no stigma involved in the different jobs."
This flexibility, apparently, extends to men suckling their children. Ever wonder why men have nipples? That's why.
9) French kids eat everything
Set mealtimes; no snacking whatsoever; the expectation that if you try something enough times, you'll like it. These are among the "food rules" in France that are taken as given. The result is French kids who eat what adults eat, from foie gras to stinky cheese. Tell that to my nephew.
well if you are going to spend the rest of your life in Norway you had better get used to sub-zero temperatures in any case
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Evidently they either have no deviants or do not care if their child gets utilized.
Ping
Norwegians probably still have a strong social contract with each other to watch each others kids. The sort of social contract the US used to have.
Japanese boys and girls go out all night “nighters”, and you wonder if raunchy anime is having an effect?
Yeah but now we've got DIVERSITY!!
Still a demographic death spiral. What ever fun they are having, they aren’t hatching any chickens.
Since children are sex objects, why would you want to have one?
“This flexibility, apparently, extends to men suckling their children. Ever wonder why men have nipples? That’s why.”
That has got to be frustrating for the baby. All that work for no food. Seems like the babies would figure it out.
I’ll ask the robots that they are building. They expect those to take care of the elderly in the future.
4 and 6 are possible becuase they have homogenized cultures. Both these used to be done in the US until we got “diversity”.
LOL!
You mean indulging perverts or some other kind of diversity?
More like Godless PC for one thing that has ruined us.
Number 9 is us. There was no way I was gonna raise no Ritz crackers and chicken nuggets kids! I can’t believe the crap most parents let their kids live off of just because they couldn’t be bothered to invest a little time up front.
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