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Most common comments by women 1.) I still love sex, not just with my husband. 2.) My husband does not know what the heck he is doing 3.) My husband no longer desires me physically/has zero sex drive
My husband and I have been together for 20 years. I adore him and my heart could never belong to another. I can count on one hand the men with whom I've had head-spinning, knees-turn-to-water sex, and none of these men were my husband. There is a feeling/chemistry that I call a "sexual connection" that happens between two people that cannot be explained to anyone who hasn't experienced what I'm talking about. To put it simply, those who know.......know; those who don't know.........no...
Yeah right ! I had a man that seem to like beer more than making love....or it seem like it!
I am over 50 and have always had a great sexdrive, it has calmed down some, likely due to a partner who could care less if he ever had sex, I don't know who they survey to get their info for these topics, both my ex husband and current partner have zero sexdrive, and it's not me, men constantly ask me out.
Men want sex all the time? You've obviously never met my ex.
LOL. The receding hairline and the expanding gut don’t help much either.
OK....OK...he was 80 years old when he said that. :-)
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It’s the wedding cake, I tell ya! I don’t know what’s in it, but it needs to be outlawed!
Yes. The action part of the male sex drive is seriously overplayed—especially as it compares to the female sex drive. Many of us females like sex quite a bit.
BFL. This ought to be interesting.
>>> while men don’t.
So all the viagra’s and the like do not help?
OMG.
Yes its all about God.
Why have sex if its to fulfill some natural urge. I can only think that my God put my wife in my life.
For 25 years Mrs. Lurkin acted like sex is disgustung.
Now I tell her that she has convinced me.
Women wonder why men want younger women as we age? Simple: We remember YOUNG women wanting sex - a lot of sex- but our wives have become far less interested in sex as they age.
I always used to think desiring a much younger woman was foolish. Now I am starting to understand that.
And we don’t all get fat or lose our hair ladies. Find a different EXCUSE.
Birth control pills, stress of dealing with kids, menopause, all those things can have an effect on a woman’s sex drive. A little romance goes a long way towards helping women get in the mood. With men it’s like turning on a switch, but it doesn’t work that way with women.
Then, after a time that ecstasy state (which is a trance) is replaced with a new phase of seeing errors in one another and moving towards a state of unconditional love (we will love each other despite our imperfections or “I am not without sin, either”) where the basis of the “family ties” phase develop (trust, respect, security, babies, finances, community involvement, aging) which is much deeper and rooted. This maturity is vital for a healthy and independent family, individual and society.
But many modern adults look back at the ecstasy of falling in love and think they are now out of love because the trance phase is over. They find that phase was so exciting and pleasurable, they live life, either resenting it's passage, or seeking to re-experience it through a serious of sexual partners or porn. In doing this they stunt the growth of their ability to create and experience a healthier, deeper and more mature long term relationship and human being.
It is natural in the mating process that the escatsy phase passes and the relationship moves on to deeper, more mature state and meaning through a serious of new phases. Many are not mature enough to arrive at unconditional love for one another and they obsess on their husband or wife's imperfections and respect the passing of the escatsy phase of love. They hurt and wound each other and themselves. They stunt their growth and miss the relationship phase that is moving towards the development of human wisdom, security, love and trust.
What happens is they split up (or move to fantasy - porn - to try and conjure the ecstasy phase of human love with their hands and objects) and move on to the next lover and repeat the process. That is called adultery and abandonment and it's hugely destructive to the most precious aspect of the adult human experience and development - melding as one with another human being and learning and experiencing unconditional love. A relationship is the only place on earth humans can experience unconditional love with another and mature self control where destructive immediate gratification or impulsiveness is overcome for self and offspring. It is the hightest state of love or being.
In a long string of seeking ecstasy, the ability to acheive the trance state through sex is no longer a possibility for that person and sex becomes totally stunted, mechanical or material, unattached to love and spirit and unable to mature naturally.
Resentment, selfish cunning, distrust, heartless manipulation, abuse... That is what comes in for those who don't mature in a marriage relationship as they were designed by nature to occur. Hanging onto the desire for the escatsy phase is growth stunting like living your life wishing and acting as if you were six years old even though you are a 30 year old man or woman.
Not maturing in the natural progression of a human relationship, makes for a dysfunctional individual and when a society is composed of too many of these individuals, it makes for a communist/police state society where a father government must rule over a society of selfish, unwise, stunted and wounded adults. That is why we are where we are in the progression of our Republic's death.
I am certain that humanity is designed to survive, mature and thrive in the husband and wife and extended family relationship. Whether we come to understand it or not, the reality does not change. We can shop for “something better” or more exciting but we will stunt our growth and often destroy ourselves, our lovers, our offspring and society, in the process.
This “viagra” marketed world of extreme sexualization which removes the sex act from committed, loving people who want to procreate with one another-—is creating rediculous fantasy, expectations, etc., which are unrealizable and void of deeper, needed meaning. It frustrates everyone—because it goes against Nature.
No mature, healthy person (especially women) want to have sex with anyone who truly doesn’t care for them and won’t commit. Our society is trying to force girls to think “Sex is fun” when it is removed from commitment and love and procreation. It never is for women.
Men need the same affirmation and love, they don’t realize it until they have a true loving relationship. For lifelong happiness, selflessness is necessary. Without that Christian concept, respect and dignity for each other will probably disintegrate in such close, intimate, long term environments where familiarity is not as exciting as the “new”—unless you develop the mind and character. All human beings need to grow and gain in wisdom to be happy. That is what is missing in everyone’s TV, bread and circuses lives. Understand that need for Wisdom is key to any relationship-—it is the intellect that truly separates us from the beasts. We are letting it atrophy and it kills relationships because they are boring and unexciting and not really advancing us—making us better than what we were yesterday.
That is why Twilight was such a hit with women.....that die-for-you-love and commitment to only one person when he could have anyone he wants. It is the healthy fantasy which all women need as young girls. The reality, though, is always flawed—but that is life. Excitement in sex wanes, but knowledge is the long-term spice of life. Socrates and Confucius clearly illustrated that concept. There is a hierarchy of fulfillment and sex dominates a period of life which is normal—but, it doesn’t end with “sex” as the Marxists want you to believe, so they can make you into idiot slaves. It is the freedom of the mind and wisdom which is the ultimate orgasm which surpassed all other experiences. That said-—people have their needs and those should be respected by both caring and loving partners whose life will remain exciting if they have a love for knowledge with that love and respect for each other.
Sex lives—is so overrated by the sex-obsessed perverts in Hollywood, trying to make the sex act into something above the dignity and worth of human beings. They reduce humans into rutting animals with no concern for the emotional health and dignity of “partners”-—which can’t ever be healthily separated. When it is-—no relationship will last and the sex act becomes boring—since it is really meaningless, not tied to deep love and affection.
If we assume that a satisfactory experience requres that both participants have an interest in the activity, then there is a mathematical result from the fact that the couple won't be interested at the same time.
Assume that each of a couple are interested in having sex 95% of the time that there is an opportunity.
Assuming that the presence or absence of interest of each is completely random, then the opportunities where both are interested will be the product of the two rates; or in this case, .95 x .95, or about .9 which is 90% of the time. Ninety-five percent of the remaining 10%, each partner will be dissatisfied.
If, for whatever reason, the interest level of both parties drops to 50%, then the rate of occurrence of mutual interest will be .5 x .5 , which means that both parties will be interested only 25% of the time that an opportunity arises.
Each of the parties described above will be experiencing reduced interest, but they will also experience a disappointment rate of about 50%; that is, half the time that they are interested, their partner is not.
One might not notice that their own interest level is decreased; one simply is interested in something else. But one would certainly notice when their partner is interested only half the time, where previously they were interested 90% of the time. Each partner would probably perceive that it is the other's reduced interest which is resulting in the reduced activitiy and the dissatisfaction which might result.
Rodney Dangerfield: “Everything my wife learned about sex she got from a manual, our gardener...”
Because they spend too much time as research study subjects?