This article interested me because I see a number of women who have been so beaten down by the idea taught by their “pastors” that they have to submit to their husbands. The husbands are free to sin in the form of domestic violence, adultery, selfishness, substance abuse then repeatedly “repent” and demand to be forgiven, but the wives are to endure, persevere, and keep raising the children as Christians all the while. These women become increasingly detached from reality as the pain and instability of their family lives is serially rocked by their husband’s betrayals. They become damaged and are unable to put the pieces together.
But this author’s reliance on psychology as the answer is disingenuous. Psychology does not help with sin, betrayal or the ptsd these women are suffering.
What does help is separating from the source of the evil, the one who is causing the pain and the instability, and focus on healing, repairing the relationship with the children and advancing the best interests of the children. Focus on self, which is often emphasized as the key to healing is a lie.
There truly are many lies told in the name of religion, but it is our job to sort them out and focus on the truth.