You have no answer and that makes your whole position baseless.
The first step is to admit one’s problem, stress, suffering, and symptoms, as opposed to a state of denial.
The second basic step is to address the question of why am I suffering, which usually is answered by blaming someone or something else, even if it is one’s genetics, one’s body, one’s addictions, one’s emotions, one’s past, God, evil, etc.
The third step is acceptance of responsibility for one’s suffering and symptoms. As long as we remain in a state of projection and blame, we are bound and not free.
The fourth step is discovering what creates our pain and symptoms, exactly what one was trying to blame on others and what one is responsible for.
The fifth step is the recognition of what the unconscious beliefs are that produce my symptoms and my suffering.
You'll get there yet.