[gogeo]

Quite frankly, I can think of much bigger legal travesties than injustices against able bodied men unwilling to put forth the effort and ego shrinkage required to behave responsibly.

So...all non-custodial dads are deadbeats? A guy who has to pay more than he earns is a deadbeat?

Is everyone like your ex?

[zoesmom]

you must have misunderstood and not seen my later post. perhaps i was not clear. i did not mean to imply that all men are deadbeats. of course there are many responsible men who behave responsibly and fulfill their obligations. i never said that a father should have to pay more than he earns. that is obviously impossible and preposterous.

what irritates me, however, is when non-custodial parents of either gender, abdicate resposibility. if i can't support my child i get a job. if i still can't support her i either get a better job or an additional job. what i DON'T do is consider escaping my responsibility via suicide or fleeing the country.

i am sure that there are some very vindictive mothers out there who do try, and succeed, to impoverish the father. it is unfortunate that grown men and women can't get over themselves long enough to negotiate reasonable support.

like i mentioned in one of my previous posts, i suspect that there is more going on here than meets the eye.