[FITZ]

Well --- I'm divorced with children --- and we've left the courts out of it. It seems two adults --- who may not love each other anymore but they once did --- should be able to be reasonable and work some things out. To be honest, I think everyone should start having prenuptial agreements that work out these issues while they're still on speaking terms and have a little feeling for the other.

[moondancer]

Im usually a lurker, but im dealing with a simular situation myself. usually the posts by men about evil x wives are identical to my own problems with my xhusband. he consitantly asks the courts for less time, less responsibility, less everything. he now wants to lower support which i agreed to work on outside the court, but he loves to litigate EVERYTHING.
my question is since many hear seem familiar with the court systems how do the judges look on this? is it different when a disability has been involved along with a lay off? if he has an exam in a few weeks to decide his potential perminant disability and is attempting to rush this thru court, how does that fair? he has filed, striken and renoted, and both times has filed fraudulent papers, lied about his income ect. im at a total loss how this works. id gladly give him his reduction, but dealing with the courts is frustrating.