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Some other data points that show the Judge's prejustice:

1) My 17 year old has been earning $1000/month since before the divorce. Florida law clearly states that a child's independant income has to be used in the support calcualtion. Therefore I should never have had to pay child support for him! I have also caught my son street racing and the police have that on record. My ex refuses to do anything about him street racing. I should not have to support illegal activity!

2) My oldest son is 26, handicapped and I adopted him @ the age of 5. He has all the rights of an adult and has a voter's registration. I am expected to pay full child support for him for life. Even though he could live out of the house, she refuses and therefore the judge has made me pay child support for an adult that has full rights as an adult!

I've been where you are except for the unemployment.

Your kids grow up and they will love you and be better for it if you are there for them as much as possible but you are virtually neutered in a battle with an ex-wife who has residential custody unless she does something very very very bad....and maybe not even then.

I do the best that I can but am resigned to the fact that I can only do so much and can only stand by and wait to help pick up the pieces of the mess my ex has made with my daughters.

The law is unfair, the judges are for the most part unfair and that's just how it is.

We have mixed feminism with traditional mother's rights in custody and it has resulted in disastrous fruit.

I hope I live long enough to see my girls become adults and hope they will know the truth....

...but they will always have a hard time realizing their mom is a total flake.

Even good women will use the children against the ex-husband.
A good repsonsible ex-husband will never make an ex-wife happy or appreciative.

It is a lifelong bittersweet fruit and I was warned that by someone who knew when it started for me and he was right.

Just be "there" all you can regardless...that is the most you can do.

I seriously wish my ex no longer wasted the earth's air but that's God's decision.

I can understand why the custom back before the Progressives got involved in American politics was that is a man did not like what was going on with his ex-wife and children then he simply went and got them and told her to stay out of it.....and boys always went with daddy. Of course women did not divorce men much then because they stood to lose too much.

No easy answers...it sucks. Choose wiser next go-around. I did and that makes life worth living.