[sweetjane]

It sounds like your oldest son should apply for and receive SS disability (or something like that). Has anyone looked into this?

Other than that, you should take your situation to the judge and request a recalculation of the child support and alimony.

Some men get the raw end of the deal in divorce, but in most cases it's the women and children who get the raw end of the deal. That's why the laws are the way they are.

My dad was one of the first dad's to sue for custody and get it, 25 years ago. At the time, my mom was a college student after being a housewife so he didn't get child support. In fact he had to pay alimony. When my mom was finally employable, he was so traumatized by the family court system that he decided not to sue for child support.

[StatesEnemy]

Some men get the raw end of the deal in divorce, but in most cases it's the women and children who get the raw end of the deal.

Simple solution... the kids go with the one that makes the most money.

[ImFightingMad]

My oldest son DOES receive SSI! That still hasn't made a difference with the Judge!

[gogeo]

Some men get the raw end of the deal in divorce, but in most cases it's the women and children who get the raw end of the deal. That's why the laws are the way they are.

Snork!!!

[FITZ]

but in most cases it's the women and children who get the raw end

Since women get the children in most cases, to me it's hard to see how they get the raw end. Even without any custody paid --- having your kids seems to me like the best part of the deal, even if you have to work two jobs to make ends meet.