Legal Tragedy for Unemployed Divorced Men & Fathers

[moondancer]

yep thats the worst part of divorce. if you cant be kind to each other and work stuff out the lawyers are the ones that make out like a bandit! so far, just responding to his petty stuff has cost me over 50,000 in 2 years. nuts!
i even tried for a change of jurisdiction and was denied by the fathers "home state". i thought it was federal law since weve lived here for 6 years. before anyone jumps on me for moving, it was agreed...my x even rushed my moving van down the street because he was having a party.

[Pukin Dog]

A marriage strike by men until these laws are changed would be quite appropriate.

I doubt it. If men stopped marrying women, Congress would eventually make it mandatory for a man to take a wife. I never considered myself to be 'on strike', but I would have to be bonkers to get married when there are so many women out there giving it up during the 'audition'.

[Mike4Freedom]

You mentioned about what happened to a relative, what you said he might do is 1 of my options. If my life is destroyed anyways by the courts, why live. :-(

I would become a fugitive before committing suicide. Your ex will go around telling everyone how you were at fault because you were mentally ill all along.

Women who do this kind of stuff to a man should burn in hell.

In my own divorce, I got custody of the kids together with a child support order. My ex called me the evening after the final hearing and told me I would never collect a cent of it-she was right.

[StatesEnemy]

A couple can figure out the woman is likely to get custody, the house and whatever is in it

Until this this thinking is passe, only a idjit man would marry.

[shaggy eel]

No... given the current social/judicial climate, he's a sucker.

,,, so was I. I was booted out with $NZ35 and my clothes in Dec 1994. That Christmas I was allowed to sit on the kerb outside my home and give my two kids their presents. Time has marched on and the ex lives with my father in my $330k house. She got the Volvos and half the value of investments etc. I was cleaned out big time (because it's for the children). I'm older and wiser now and able to guage the transparency of your comments quite easily. I'd bet in this regard you'll have little to offer any prospective partner on a long term basis with an outlook like yours.

[Mini-14]

Go post your anti-marriage crap on some other bulletin board.

[StatesEnemy]

I would have to be bonkers to get married when there are so many women out there giving it up during the 'audition'.

Exactly...

Would I like a long term committed relationship? Sure.... but not while the deck is stacked against me.

I'll just go the serial monogamy route til then,

[lilmsdangrus]

A little bitter, are we????

[StatesEnemy]

Awwww... I've exposed Mini-14's (and Co.) lil scam.

Face it ladies, us menfolk are wising up!

[StatesEnemy]

Bitter? No not at all.

Having a grand time actually.

[moondancer]

well wait! why is it always the "ladys"? some of us ladys have given it our all to be workable. sometimes men are just as bad, maybe not as frequently, but certainly it does happen.

[StatesEnemy]

I'd bet in this regard you'll have little to offer any prospective partner on a long term basis with an outlook like yours.

Well... at least I have an income! LOL

[StatesEnemy]

well wait! why is it always the "ladys"? some of us ladys have given it our all to be workable. sometimes men are just as bad, maybe not as frequently, but certainly it does happen.

Of course... but until there is a surefire way of discriminating - I'll just stay in non-nuptial "agreements".

[PatrioticAmerican]

Great article and dead on. I dated like crazy and I made loads of dough. Those cute girls were never a consideration for marriage. They were money hounds waiting to bait me, only to get preggers and use me and the children as trophies, and I knew it. I was to be no trophy husband. I married a great gal. A good friend describes her as "one cool lady." She was professional, going through her Masters, made her own way through life and enjoyed who I was.

One day my best friend an I were at the dirt bike track. His wife was a bitch about him riding. Mine loved it. He asked, "You ever going to marry that girl?" We were engaged two weeks later at Christmas. Seven years later and we're doing great.

My sister, who claimed I was too "irresponsible" to ever marry, is divorcing her husband after 20 years, leaving my nephew, a 17 year old senior in high school . Her complaint, "[My husband] is too boring." She wants to party and get laid. Her hubby is a great guy and never cheated or abused her. He is actually a fun loving guy, she is just a party pooper. He was always the responsible one, and recently retired Air force.

She likes to tell "men suck" stories. AT 39 years old, she is in for one rude awakening.

[Pukin Dog]

but until there is a surefire way of discriminating

Are you working on your Vulcan mind-meld?

[moondancer]

LOL yep she sure is. slim pickens im sure especially when men her age are looking for the "20 somethings" with an attitude like that im sure shell be missing mr. boring in no time flat...

[shaggy eel]

Well... at least I have an income! LOL

,,, an income? Your selling your labour? A lot of the world's population can claim that. So, with an income you're a real catch, eh? Now that's a sucker! You'd put a shingle out proclaiming "I've got an income - I'll pay your bills"? Loser! Once again!

Here's your chance to shine... tell me what's going to make you a real catch for the sort of woman who wouldn't throw you on the electric fence that this thread is all about.

[Pukin Dog]

recently retired Air force

That the problem right there, guy.

I'm retired Navy, and I have seen this a thousand times. Retired military persons are seen as automatic check machines. The women know the checks will be coming, and if necessary, her portion removed before he even sees it after she gets the courts on her side.

There are women who cant resist the idea of getting that money without having to put of with the man who earned it.

[Trust but Verify]

I've read through most of this thread and have come to the following conclusion You're Mad. Not Fighting mad, just mad. As in off your rocker! Not showing up in court? Bad move. They're not going to throw you in jail for showing up in court. They ARE going to throw you in jail for NOT showing up in court.