[Judith Anne]

My mother in law didn't like me for about 20 years...she had another girl picked out for my husband...seriously....there was a lot of conflict between us, and I refused to allow her to treat me badly--I removed myself from any contact with her...but I always told our children that she loved them with all her heart (she did)and that it isn't children's business or concern if grownups don't agree.

We reconciled 10 years before her death, when she apologized for all her hatefulness over the years...it came out of the blue, and it lasted and grew into love between us...

[lepton]

...she had another girl picked out for my husband...seriously...

Hmmm. :)

[...]and that it isn't children's business or concern if grownups don't agree.

An idea that is often lost on the adults. Whenever the kids are in the middle things are always a mess, and all manner of ill comes of it.