Actually, one could make a case that that was your problem. Your refusal to see there can be more wrong here than
just not having the spirit of independance, or whatever, tells me that you don't want to have to live in a world that
can leave you stranded without a livelihood in spite of all your efforts.
The certainty you cling to is that you will always be OK because you are "open to possiblities"
If people had gotten personal and crappy with me, I might not have been as receptive to the idea that I had been wrong.