[honeygrl]

"I've always believed that abortion is an act of pure selfishness and lack of love"

I totally agree with that. I have also seen another nasty side to it. My neice (in-law) got pregnant when she was 16 and her mother flat out insisted that she have an abortion (at 3mths along!) or she wasn't allowed to come back home. The girl had made quite a few bad choices and was in a position of either having to return home, live with her dad (who basically just used her as a free babysitter to his 2 new kids with his new wife in a small 2 bedroom home where she had to sleep on the couch), or become a ward of the state. She did NOT want to have an abortion though. In fact the entire family, excluding her insane mom, did not want her to. We all offered to let her come live with us as long as she needed to but we were all out of state so the court wouldn't allow it. She desperately wanted to go back to her mom's home because that's where she grew up and where both of the siblings were that she was very close to. So, in order to go home she had to have the abortion. Everyone was heartbroken over it except her idiot mother. For the rest of her life she's going to have to live with the decision too and I know one day it's going to eat her up inside, if it doesn't already. In her mind though she had no other choice. As far as I'm concerned, the blood is on her mother's hands for pushing her into it. I can't imagine making one of my children choose between me and their baby. It's just heartless.

[Mo1]

In her mind though she had no other choice.

I guess her idiot mom never heard of adoption?

What a sad story

[DaughterOfAnIwoJimaVet]

Good post, honeygrl. I think, contrary to what people assume, that a lot of girls who have abortions believe that they have lost their support systems (the father probably doesn't want the baby, she may have no parental support, and she's not able to see herself financially taking care of a child), and many of them are not equipped to deal with that. They're just not old enough, established, or mature enough to go it alone - and that's when desperation hits.

Encouraging adoption as an option for people who feel backed into a corner is one of the best things we could do, in my opinion.