Thanks also for the clarification on "kinky" and "nappy." I grew up in the Deep South, and sometimes I don't know what passes muster (words/phrases which were just part of our speech when we were kids).
For example, the old TV Show "Benson" had an episode surrounding the racist connotations of the word "uppity." In my upbringing, "uppity" was just one of those vague Southern words with unclear definitions. My mother would get on us if we got uppity, which I took to mean when we put on airs or otherwise got too big for our britches.
I had no idea "uppity" was a racist word. Frankly, I'm still not sure, but I don't use it anyway.