[Cacophonous]

That's a good point. I withdraw my comments. I know when I'm whipped.

[A_perfect_lady]

I know you've already withdrawn your comments, but let me pile on a bit, belatedly: they hate us even when we REFUSE to get involved. Think of Rwanda. I heard no end of griping at the university about our "callous indifference." No, I'm afraid I personally think that there is nothing, nothing we can do (or not do) to ease their hatred of us. Our intervention or lack thereof is just an excuse. As long as we are successful and happy, they'll hate us the way children from a previous marriage hate the new baby.