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Just barging in here with some unsolicited advice :) : Between you and XG, try to come to a resolution on the kid decision as soon as you can. This can be a deal-breaker in a relationship when one half of the couple wants one and the other doesn't.

It's not something that can be compromised on either - no half-kid is possible. Either one person has to have a child they don't want, or the other gets to live in resentment that their partner prevented them from being a parent.

I say this because of my experience: DH and I have been very out of synch on the kid issue our entire relationship. One factor was his issues I mentioned in a post above, another is that we're 12 years apart in age. We didn't talk enough about it either - each of us thought the other's original position on it had remained the same, when it actually had reversed over the years - we started out with him wanting one and me being too young and not ready, and ended up with me wanting them and him not.

So talk to your guy, talk talk and talk somemore and make sure you both know where you're really at on it.

Just my unsolicited $.02.
LQ