The Mass is, and has always been, a celebration of the Eucharist - and the Eucharist is a remebrance of the sacrafice that Jesus made. We can be happy that He died for our sins AND appreciate that He died for our sins at the same time.
Having said that, I will agree that some will view the Mass as a social occasion without the deep appreciation that it deserves. This is not necessarily the fault of the Church.
I have never seen a 15th station in any church. Such a practice is not in accordance with Vatican II or the tradition of the Passion, however some individual parishes incorrectly took Vatican II as a license to do almost anything that they wanted to.
I will agree that the resurrected Jesus on the Cross is a bit politically correct. Its just too Protestant. There are still many Churches that have the crucified Christ though.
As God is transcendent (doesn't wear a Timex or Rolex) the Eucharist is a participation in the original event.
when I was a missionary in Africa, I came home, but some of my friends were martyred shortly afterward. I appreciated the idea that even though they had suffered the cross, the hope of the resurrection was still there. So I have now a large "resurrection" cross in my dining room.
However, my husband, who has seen much suffering, poverty, and war, prefers the traditional cross. So my grandparent's cross hangs over our beds, an old traditional cross from probably a hundred years ago.