What happened to me was much worse. Ok, you have to tell me what is worse. I can think of other scenarios of "worse", but not many. You are anonymous on this forum so hit us with it. Or you can freep mail me.
I really want to know what is worse than your older brother, who you always looked up to, raping your young wife, and the mother of your 3 pre-school children, and totally negatively changing dozens of peoples lives forever?
What doesn’t kill you strengthens you.
Ummmmm...it could have been your dad who did it. I think that would be worse.
In post# 119 you said your wife had a spring fling. In post# 178 you said she committed adultery and then in your last post you said your brother raped your wife.
Theres a big difference between the two.
If your wife was raped by your brother then it is your brother you should be mad at not your wife.
And I stand by my original post that if you truly loved your wife you will pray for her and wish her the best.
That does not mean you have to live with her. It just means that for the sake of the children and your heart you forgive her and move on.
It may take a long time.