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I have, and for several reasons. Once I made the mistake of having sex with a girl who was a certifiable nut. It took several months to get her to stop contacting me, and the sex (once) certainly wasn't worth it.

Perhaps I have been lucky, or (forgive me) possibly more selective in my choices of partners, but I have never had this problem. I am fortunate enough to be on good terms with most of my ex-girlfriends. I acknowledge that this may not be true for others. However, unlike Mr. Celibacy in the article, I'm not telling everyone else that they should live the way that I live. All I can say is that it has worked for me.

Think about it a bit. What if you get a woman pregnant - and don't want to marry her? What then?

I have thought about this a lot. It is one of my main considerations in choosing potential partners. I do not want to have children, and have almost exclusively limited myself to girlfriends that do not want children either. We use birth control reponsibly. I realize that pregnancy is still a small possiblity. If that happened, I would change my entire life and devote it to that child. I have accepted that. But I hope it doesn't happen and I don't think it will. It is possible to be very knowledgeable about fertility and to minimize chances of conception, particularly when both parties have such a strong interest in doing so.

Perhaps I have been lucky, or (forgive me) possibly more selective in my choices of partners, but I have never had this problem. I am fortunate enough to be on good terms with most of my ex-girlfriends. I acknowledge that this may not be true for others. However, unlike Mr. Celibacy in the article, I'm not telling everyone else that they should live the way that I live. All I can say is that it has worked for me.

No apology needed. I was pointing out my own stupidity - and lack of selectivity. I was thinking with the wrong head.

Mr. Celibacy is just pointing out what works for him and why he believes it's the best way. Countless people from many different points of view do so, so I'm not bothered by him doing it.

In fact, my own experiences lead me to believe he's right.

However, I'm glad things have worked out for you, and I think your reply regarding the unwanted pregnancy issue is a responsible one.

We use birth control reponsibly. I realize that pregnancy is still a small possiblity. If that happened, I would change my entire life and devote it to that child.

What do you mean by "birth control"? If any of your co-fornicators use abortifacient drugs for that purpose then you may be participating in the creation of a human being who is then killed by those humanticides. Assuming for the sake of argument that you may not mind the death of such a very young child of yours, what would you do if one of your co-fornicators decided to hire an abortionist to chop up the baby at some time before birth? Isn't that "birth control", too?

Cordially,