I'm with the women on this one. I think it's rather snotty of Washington to make the a priori assumption that sex before marriage is "using" the other partner. What sort of attitude is that to carry into a serious relationship?It's properly called fornication.
Assuming that your motivation is to find the right wife forever, making sure you are sexually compatible is as important as making sure you agree on children and handling money. Just last week, we celebrated our 25th anniversary. I credit the longevity of our marriage to our spending four years trying out every aspect of marriage before making the commitment - and to both of us trying out a lot of other partners first.
I'm sorry, but it is self-evident from what you have said that you do not, did not, and can never have the joy and intimacy of virignal marital love.
Cordially,
I'm chuckling a little here at the missionary zeal displayed by the fornication crowd. How they loathe the slightest vestige of self-control, the very idea that there might be an itch that cannot be immediatedly and repeatedly scratched with pride. One almost thinks they lie awake at nights, worrying that someone might still be a virgin.
It's quite comical really. I suspect their sex lives are even less interesting than that of Mr. Celibacy, the focus of our article.