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To: TheSpottedOwl
I don't think I would tolerate it. I appreciate his commitment to remaining celibate until marriage, however if I had spent six months with this gentleman and there was no ring I'd hit the road. I'm just putting myself in these womens shoes.

I gave a Sweetie a diamond ring four months to the day after we met. About four months after that, I gave her a matching gold ring. That night, we were too tired to do anything. But after that...

Still, for some people more time may be needed. I wouldn't fault a woman who, after five months, announced that if she didn't have at least a schedule, if not a ring, she wasn't going to stick around forever.

Note that I wouldn't fault a man for wanting to wait until after specific events before getting engaged. For example, if they were planning a trip to meet her parents, I wouldn't mind him waiting until after such meeting to make his proposal, even if it was more than six months after they first met.

If the woman asked for a commitment out of the blue after six months, and dumped the guy because he wasn't willing to promise within five minutes that he'd marry her, I'd blame the woman. If, however, she game him a reasonable timetable to make such a decision and he refused to either make it or negotiate a different but specific timetable, I'd blame him.

105 posted on 06/15/2003 12:34:50 PM PDT by supercat (TAG--you're it!)
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To: supercat
If the woman asked for a commitment out of the blue after six months, and dumped the guy because he wasn't willing to promise within five minutes that he'd marry her, I'd blame the woman. If, however, she game him a reasonable timetable to make such a decision and he refused to either make it or negotiate a different but specific timetable, I'd blame him.

Exactly. This guy seems to be advertising that he wants to get married, so the women he dates are also marriage minded. 33 isn't that old for a guy, but for a woman who wants a family, it's scary. You have to be careful and not jump into something (this I know from bitter experience), but you usually get a feeling for the person right off the bat. Unless of course you've landed a sociopath.

I gave a Sweetie a diamond ring four months to the day after we met. About four months after that, I gave her a matching gold ring. That night, we were too tired to do anything. But after that...

Congratulations, you knew what you wanted and didn't waste time :)

149 posted on 06/15/2003 1:22:07 PM PDT by TheSpottedOwl (America...love it or leave it. Canada is due north-Mexico is directly south...start walking.)
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