Father McGowan, my mother almost died while trying to be a devout Catholic because of an uninformed and completely out of line priest.(your words) And still you say 'IF' the priest told her that she had to get permission. He did.
The Bishop finally allowed his permission. He did not tell my mother that the priest was out of line for his mandate to my mother.
Are you all in denial of your absolute power?
My brother and his wife left for a similar (?) reason, but in their case they seemed to be looking for an excuse not to get up on Sunday morning.
While having NO idea WHY she asked PERMISSION to get a necessary surgery done, one does NOT....NEVER...know what was said...how it was interpreted....what the circumstances are the others don't want us to know.
The Catholic Church is just as Arthur McGowan said....MILLIONS of people have gladly given their lives for the Church.....true Martyrs and Saints. God Bless Your Family.