(I know it may seem I am picking on you-- I don't intend to, but your posts have inspired me.)
For someone who seems intent on demonstrating how much racism lurks beneath the surface of white society (if I have interpreted your remarks about your father and your upbringing correctly), you sure do like to spell out the "n" word. I never would have thought this of myself, being on the insensitive side (let's face it), but seeing it spelled out so baldly bothers me. Doesn't it bother you?
1) You're making a lot of assumptions. All wrong. But knock yourself out...What do I care?
2) No. It's a word. Offensive in some contexts, not in others.