Appeasement has become anything other than the use of military force to remove Saddam Hussein. Noone is suggesting that Saddam be ignored. In fact, the French and German plan actually calls for the noose to be tightened. So appeasement is a mischaracterization.
I'm not certain that the aim for spreading democracy to the middle east is best accomplished through conquest and occupation. ( see Afghanastan ) In a culture that has no democratic traditions and is stuck in feudalism it wouldn't be too far off the mark to describe spreading democracy as pious daydreaming. One thing the Bush administration needs to do is have an end game; while the use of our overpowering military is attractive to most Americans, as some kind of catharsis or entertainment venue, some would like to understand the long range plan and it's practical feasiblity when put in place.