(Welcome to the world of Asian contradiction).
It reminds me of Chie Nakane's Japanese Society, which I have long thought the best introduction to the Japanese. Do you know of anything similar on Korea? My study of Korea is limited to modern times, from Fehrenbach's This Kind of War, which I read 30 years ago or so, to some privately done stuff a decade or so ago about the Chaebol and Korean business practice.