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Marriages that follow what was once traditional courtship tend to be successfull as do those arranged marriages that still occur. Neither is based on love. Courtship gives the two a chance to get to know each other before committing emotionally. They learn whether they like each other which is far more imortant than love. If they marry they grow to love each other because they have already accepted that the relationship is right. Arranged marriages , courtship, mail order marriages (excepting fraud), all have one characteristic in common. The parties to the deal expect it to work. Marrying for love is mostly marrying on impulse and hormones which doesn't make for a very stable relationship. Impulse and hormones are not expectation and do not involve thought. One does not have to like someone to be in love with that person. If one does'nt like one's lover there is not much future in the relationship.

You're absolutely right. Again, in my experience, it's hard to build the 'like' part when after a certain number of dates, a guy wants and expects to jump in the sack. Sex and love are inexplicably related. And for many women, sex without love is not high on the list. Of course, I can only speak for myself. I know there are some lady freaks out there.

What a miserable lot.

This all kinda reminds me of the blame game.

I'm always right and I'm perfect but the (fill in the blank) has ruined my chances of ever being happy.