[muggs]

There is always the chorus of "he didn't cry enough (or cried to much), or "did you see her makeup, she did it" or any such claptrap & they think they come off sounding so clever

You're right. I can see what you mean. That's the reason I stayed away from the threads on E. Smart, C Levy, D Van Dam.

The Peterson case caught my interest for some reason and even though I think the husband is probably involved I see a lot of what you say in many of the posters. Most of us are lucky that we have never had to deal with something like this personally so it is impossible to state how we would act under the same circumstances and all people are different and don't have the same reaction.

[Ditter]

You are exactly right! You don't know how you will react to tragedy until you have one of your own.