Big cities and even in some not so big cities prove to be difficult places for singles of both sexes. Some FREEPERs have complained that small towns are difficult.
Many women have high self esteem, certainly write/speak better grammatical English than you do ( it's like I , not, as you wrote, " like me ", BTW ), and still have problems finding Mr. Right.
But then, you think that JLo is an exemplar of sterling womanhood and how one should conduct oneself. ROTFLMSO !