[HeadOn]

Good for you, and God Bless you. My wonderful wife is a "Southern Belle" whose GPA was better than mine. She is an electrical engineer. She "has it all" too, but she and I BOTH had a good understanding of each other before we got hitched.

After 6 months, I asked her to marry me. We promptly had a discussion about religion, parenting styles, and important decisions to be made down the line. To my delight, she gave ME the tie-breaker vote on tough calls. But I've NEVER had to use it, because we talk about stuff, and I don't always have to have my own way. Lots of men (including me) are just stubborn enough that if a woman insists she be in charge, we won't let her. If she doesn't insist, we don't care so much.

Women who don't need men don't understand that when men see that attitude, we walk away, thinking, "Ok. So you don't need me. I'll find someone who does. Have a nice life."

[riversarewet]

To my delight, she gave ME the tie-breaker vote on tough calls. But I've NEVER had to use it, because we talk about stuff, and I don't always have to have my own way.

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Been married for 32 years. We have never made a big decision without discussing it first, and both agreeing on it. Although I think the real secret is we have separate checking accounts. She balances hers to the penny every month, and I just kind of keep track of my balance.