Women cannot have it all, because they are women. Men CAN have it all, if they do it in the right order. Men should not think about wives or children until they have achieved a certain level of success, so that if they want to get married, they can do it on their terms, and by their own set of standards and values. Too many men settle for the first woman that sleeps with them, as though if they let her get away, they would never get sex again.
I am enough of a realist to understand that some woman could come along, and knock my socks off, and make me change my mind, regardless of what I think right now. Live is an ever changing thing. The point is, should that happen, I am in a position to not have to pay if I make a mistake, I wont have to move in with my parents, I wont have to buy her a house that I can t live in, and I wont have to pay for children without being able to visit them.
Men should forget about serious relationships, until they have had enough experience with women to be able to decipher the good ones from the bad. Young men are walking penises that lack the ability to say no to a woman offering sex for the sake of self-preservation. I’m not angry, nor bitter. Life is good.
I don't think kids should set a goal of wealth, prior to having kids - one could always argue, "not now, I need more wealth."
Just have kids - certainly, you should be able to feed them - but that ain't real hard, you know.