This is exactly what many women do AFTER having been supplied with a house, alimony and child support from an ex-husband(sucker) who thought it was all about "love".
Once she is set up, and the ex is living with his parents so he can afford to support her, she is free to move in that 'love muscle' you speak of.
I have been married 15 years - three kids, no divorce.
I need my wife, and I suspect that she needs me - certainly, our kids need us both.
You sound like the male version of the 40-something libber that posted earlier, about how she could have it all. Perhaps you should date.