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To: 2banana
If someone has already made this point, I apologize for the redundancy. But males who go to college expect to graduate, have a career and a spouse at the same time. The females graduate and expect only the career first, then later to have a spouse. The men, darn them anyway, don't want to wait around for the females to turn 30. They get married, as nature intended, while they are young and strong enough to bear the burdens of work and family. No one told the career minded females that they would likely miss the marriage boat if they put career first and marriage and family second. They are going to have to want both, or settle for the leftovers.

The pattern seems to hold true though, with a family I know. There are four children. The oldest son graduated and got a law degree, he got married, to another professional, and she is expecting. The next child, a daughter, got a degree, and a job, but she has a boyfriend, and at this time, there is no serious talk of marriage. The third child, a male, got a degree, got a job, and is engaged. The fourth child, a male, is still in school. I am betting that soon after he graduates, there will be a woman and an engagement. Kind of illuminating.

101 posted on 01/03/2003 3:39:35 PM PST by Enterprise
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To: Enterprise
There is a difference between starting a career and taking a break from an established one. The women this subject discusses try to do the latter because the former requires both the care of very young children and a major time investment in early career building. I.e., the problem is the time needs of mothering very young children.

Few fathers are willing to invest the time in care of very young children and fewer are any good at it. Mothers are better at it due to biology, which likewise makes it almost impossible for them to not spend the time with their children that the children need.

The professional women at issue are in plain denial of biology. It is very difficult for them to do what they want so they both deny and resent that. But denial and resentment doesn't change the cards nature gave us all.

102 posted on 01/03/2003 5:08:09 PM PST by Thud
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