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Oh my dear, you are a rude boor. I would rather have my breasts screened than endure your insults. But since you did, I must reply. Obviously you have never been pregnant or you would be aware that pregnant women cry at everything. And all modesty is gone,,when you have been to the local sadist posing as a gyn, what you go thru is unbelievable and after doing so nothing upsets you ever again unless is is your husband acting like a boor. I suggest that his proper response to the perceived assault on his woman was for him to hug her, tell her it was over, and say "lets get on the plane dear away from this ASAP. And then be really nice to her. In other words, his macho display was not for her. It was for the men in the vicinity. And unfortunately the men were the kind who don't have to take crap off anyone. And as for whether I am a catch or not. I am in my 60's and have been caught for almost forty years by a man who would never make a scene at an airport thus getting us in soup. He would be softspoken, a gentlemen, pat me on the shoulder and say "Buck up dear". And he would die for me if necessary. This was not the place to make a "stand"...So there my dear. Consider yourself given a free lecture from a grandmother who knows the world a bit.

Oh save it..

I know all about it, Pregnant women feel like big, fat cows. Their clothes don't fit right and they are self concious and sick half the time.

I can completely understand why no woman would want the airport rent-a-cops feeling her up and I can certainly understand why her husband wouldn't think mych of the idea either.

Fact of the matter is you are just offended when your own standard is applied to you.

That's typical.. as most hypoctires don't.

Consider yourself given a free lecture ...

Your lecture was very good as was your original post about the whiner. It takes a real man to comfort his wife in a time of need rather than strutting his stuff in an sad attempt to be a man.

He would be softspoken, a gentlemen, pat me on the shoulder and say "Buck up dear".

Such a shame that your husband would tell you to let it go if you're humiliated in public.

(Sorry to join late...I couldn't log on this weekend)

While I agree that getting hysterical is never a helpful response to a difficult situation, I think that all of the discussion assessing the correctness of the author's response is missing the point. You (and some others here) seem to be saying that the only appropriate response to arrogant behavior by govt officials is to blandly accept it. I don't agree. Just "bucking up" and letting these willful children have their way is wrong.

If we're going to question anybody's judgement here, I think the response of the authorities should come under scrutiny. Having been in positions of authority myself, I apply a ruthless double standard to the behavior and judgement of those to whom authority has been delegated. I expect such people to be able to make sensible judgements and not simply resort to force to resolve any difficult situation. A distraught husband who shouts at me needs to get control of himself but he is NOT committing a crime. Someone who cannot handle such a situation without resorting to mindless force has no business being in a position of authority.

I think that any place where an arrogant petty bureaucrat abuses his/her authority is a good place to "make a stand". If more of us did this we wouldn't have it happening so much. It is possible to make a stand for your dignity without going hysterical. If you think your dignity isn't worth defending, then it doesn't exist.