[Notwithstanding]

1. Sad story - thanks for the candor.

2. Evidence that birth control is risky.

3. You have one more child in your family that no one has the privilege of knowing - hope you meet him/her some day.

4. Since the surgery was to remove the IUD, the direct intent was not to kill the child. The child's death was a likely but undesired side effect. (Just as removing the ectoptic tube is different than killing the child inside the tube and removing him/her so that the tube can be saved).

[MHGinTN]

One more thing: when we chose to use an IUD, I/we didn't realize that it is merely the earliest form of in situ abortifacient devices. I don't condone the use of IUD's either, now.