[CobaltBlue]

I think it's also very important to be yourself, and to be true to yourself.

When I was growing up, people would tell me to pretend I wasn't as intelligent as I am, because it would intimidate men. I did not listen to them, which is a good thing, because when I ask my husband what he likes about me, one of the first things he says is that I am intelligent.

I met my husband working for the college newspaper. He wrote music reviews, and I did layout and pasteup. I liked his musical taste and writing style, and thought he was cute, he thought I was beautiful and intelligent.

I had a crush on the photographer, but my husband-to-be kept chasing me, persistently, until I agreed to go out with him, and he did everything he could to show me that he was crazy about me.

It was uncharacteristic of him, because he's really shy.

He is a real gem, and I am lucky to have him.

[Z in Oregon]

You know, there is a prevailing social myth that men prefer dumb women. It isn't true. Men want the total package, not just looks/wealth.

[SauronOfMordor]

When I was growing up, people would tell me to pretend I wasn't as intelligent as I am, because it would intimidate men. I did not listen to them, which is a good thing, because when I ask my husband what he likes about me, one of the first things he says is that I am intelligent.

Of course it intimidates many men. But those aren't the ones you're looking for anyway, so who cares?

In real life, I tend to be a bit "over the top", and it makes some people uncomfortable. I do it deliberately, because I found that the people that I repel are people I don't want to deal with anyway, and the people who like my antics are people who I enjoy hanging out with. So it's an efficient filtering mechanism to be "yourself, but even more so", and saves a lot of time, because your true self will peek out eventually anyway