[SauronOfMordor]

My point is this: I took the patriarchal position once in 30 years, but it was not necessary to do so in day-to-day living.

A patriarchal arrangement works to my wife's advantage.

The bottom line is when there's disagreement on what to do, and I feel strongly about it, it happens my way. But I try to bend over backwards not to abuse the situation, so when it's not something I feel strongly about, I go along with what she wants to do. The net result is she gets her way most of the time.

[jimt]

Your essay was extremely well written and thought provoking, Illbay's ill considered comments not withstanding.