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To: GirlNextDoor
"I refuse to join in any gender blame games. BOTH genders failed and took advantage of the natural relationships they were intended for."

That is a very enlightened position to hold, and I am greatly encouraged by your attitide. Although I hope that you are not attempting to suggest that I, Myself, am of the opinion that women are solely to blame. Far from it.
I have stated, repeatedly, that since women are so confused about why men are so reluctant to marry I felt the need to point out the reasons why a marriage is such a risk to all we males hold dear. The odds are almost exclusively arranged to destroy a man's life at any time and no reason at all, other than that the woman decides that the necessary expenditure of time and energy for the continuation of the relationship is something she no longer feels a need for and is 'holding her back'. Are they alone responsible for the discontinuation and diminishment of marriages thereby? In a word: yes. What they are not solely responsible for is the prevalence of societal acceptance of their actions and the availability of governmental forces to enforce and encourage the same. If you wish to argue that both genders are responsible because it was the males that helped to bring about the situations, I would point out that the availability of an option does not necessitate its utilization. The possession of a firearm does not mandate a resulting homicidal action.

This is not 'women-bashing', as those of a particularly emasculatory mindset continue to accuse. It is not a derogatory position to posess, to understand that the chances that exist for the destruction of a man's life in the dissolution of a marriage are so great that given the choice, the vast majority of us would not play the lottery with those odds. That being said... most of us males still hope to someday meet the one exception that will enable us to attain that elusive goal of the successful marriage. Call Me a romantic at heart, but that is what I hear from most other males, and what I truly believe.

659 posted on 11/06/2002 10:17:34 AM PST by Utilizer
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To: Utilizer
The odds are almost exclusively arranged to destroy a man's life at any time and no reason at all, other than that the woman decides that the necessary expenditure of time and energy for the continuation of the relationship is something she no longer feels a need for and is 'holding her back'. Are they alone responsible for the discontinuation and diminishment of marriages thereby? In a word: yes. What they are not solely responsible for is the prevalence of societal acceptance of their actions and the availability of governmental forces to enforce and encourage the same.

Very well said.
672 posted on 11/06/2002 11:38:55 AM PST by Desdemona
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