| Nice girls don't do what has been described on this thread. What some women do is just not right. It just isn't.
"C'mon, do it for the sisterhood! Do it two or three times to different men, and you could own three homes and be set for life. It's your right! You deserve it!" This is the system we have in this country. The problem isn't men or women, or finding the right partner. It's lawyers and judges and politicians who want to screw with peoples' lives for money and power. To hear you tell it, all a man has to do is look under the right rock, and he can find a woman who won't take him to the cleaners for fun. Well, that's nice, but that's not the point. Why should you even have the right to do that to somebody? Why should somebody walk around on eggshells for the next twenty years because you might change your mind at some point? Sure, today, you say you'd never do that. All women say that. They all mean it, too. But the world is full of guys living on $700 a month who married a woman who would never do that to them... until she did. You can't expect sane men to go into a deal with you where you get to have a nuclear weapon, on the basis of your assurances that you're so nice that you won't use yours. Not when any man can look around and see dozens just like him who have been nuked. Disarm first, and maybe then they'll come looking for you under your rock. Nothing about this is going to change until women face an equal risk of losing custody of their children in a divorce. So long as there is a presumption of maternal custody, all the rest has to follow, and the system will remain an unacceptable hazard to male participants. Society would be better off in the long run if custody decisions were removed from the purview of judges and decided by a flip of a coin. Men would perceive that as fair, and women would see a 50-50 chance of losing. With that one change, the divorce rate would drop like a rock, and the rest of this stuff would all go away. |
Those women are not the problem. They are responding rationally to the same system that causes men to respond rationally by avoiding marriage. The government and the legal system are standing there telling them, "Go on, take his house! Both cars, too. You know you want to. Plus half his income for the rest of his life. And take the kids with you!