Not to try and make lite of whatever you're situation was, but this the statement above, and one's just like it, is a real pet-peeve. Your children were not owed $5000, you were. Child support checks are not made out to "the children." The children are not legally entitled to have ANY child support collected spent on them. They are not entitled to any arreages collected after they become adults. Hell, the child support enforcement agencies refuse to even print "Money for the support of (child's name)" on the memo line of the checks that they send out.
I'm sorry to hear that you and your kids had a hard time with the situation. It just seems like the people who argue the most about keeping the kids out of the middle of the arguments usually have no problem with using those kids to demonize their father's.
Correction, the money was not mine. It was to be spent on caring for and providing for my daughters. Thus, in my mind he owed the money to them...not me.
the people who argue the most about keeping the kids out of the middle of the arguments usually have no problem with using those kids to demonize their father's.
I'm not exactly certain if you are implying that I was guilty of this behavior, but I can assure you that the many broken promises he made to his daughters resulted in their decision in more recent years to avoid him at all costs.