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My ex was put on a public Dead Beat Dad's list. The guy was a jerk but he did pay and the list came out when my sons were in their twenties. He was led to believe (by the child support agency) that I filed against him and was raging when he called me. I had no idea that was happening to him so told him I would do what I could to help. I called the bureau of child support and told them my ex didn't owe me any money, that the paperwork was finalized years before. They demand that I show proof. I explained that I didn't have the paperwork, that he owed me no money, and I would not accept a dime. I was then told to my amazement that they would demand the money, give me mine to give back to him if I chose. I told them @#!%$ so they finally told me to get a notorized signature saying he owed me no money. I did so and took it personally to the agency who said they would use my statement in court. I went off on them again and used the above language and demanded I be informed of the court date, that I wanted to tell the judge what really was going on. About a month later I received a document from the court stating, Jane Doe vs JohnDoe.......Case dismissed because of plaintiff's refusal to testify. Plaintiff says she won't accept John Doe's support payment. How corrupt can they get?? I turned all the information to an attorney who is keeping tabs on cases against men in Ohio. My ex realizes I had nothing to do with the frivolous suit and waste of money on behalf of Ohio citizens. I hope the attorneys who are documenting harassment against men and women who pay child support sock it to the government on their behalf.

I think you may be leaving something out of the story. At some point along the line, you must have been receiving government assistance.

My own experience with government is that they are very inert except when collecting money which is owed to them.

By law if you get government assistance the government can get reimbursement from your ex, whether you want them to or not.

Since the support departments are administrative many states use "contract attorneys" These attorneys get a percentage of the back support collected. It is like a police officer getting a piece of the speeding fines for tickets he issues. If this were criminal court it would be illegal. Since this is civil court there is no mention. This is done mostly in cases where the mother was at some point on public support of any kind.