Roger, my first husband and the father of my daughter, died when my daughter was six. I doubt if I can "let him off the floor," unless you'd like me to disinter him.
But say, Roge, if he had snuffed his (former) wife and children, would you be making him into a martyr?
You're a charmer Catspaw. If we had a story telling thread for developing a fictionaly story by a group, you'd be tops.