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With all due respect, we've had several male friends whose choices were quite reasonable. Seemingly good solid women with healthy backgrounds who go on after children are born to flake completely out and end the marriage. We have just such a friend right now who is from a VERY traditional family(no warning to this) who decided she wants to focus on her career instead of their one yr old daughter and 6 yr old marriage. I mean her behavior is almost pathological it's beyond comprehension. I can tell you this story many times over too. I do seem to notice a trend of women flipping out like this AFTER having children and I'm starting to suspect some link between hormonal turmoil and bad decision making(not to excuse it, but I wish women would consider the possibility before making any sort of big decisions like this). BTW, this friend does not want his marriage to end and is very upset for his daughter because his wife is rejecting her.
Anyway my point is that, yes, some men make poor decisions a to who they pick, some women do to, but anymore, some women seem perfectly stable when they are marrying them and then change in incomprehensible ways as the marriage moves on.

We have just such a friend right now who is from a VERY traditional family(no warning to this) who decided she wants to focus on her career instead of their one yr old daughter and 6 yr old marriage. I mean her behavior is almost pathological it's beyond comprehension. I can tell you this story many times over too. I do seem to notice a trend of women flipping out like this AFTER having children and I'm starting to suspect some link between hormonal turmoil and bad decision making ...

That is exactly the effect that the feminist movement intends. I'm sure I sound a little flipant in the way I say it, but women are encouraged to blame men and divorce whenever they have a bad hair day. Continually questioning their marriages along with the institution of marriage generally ("slavery for women") is daily bread. Along with that, the constant search for an alternative to the marriage they've sworn their committment to. When the bad hair days come, the chance for divorce varies with the character and hormonal effects of individual women. I believe that in the current social environment, with the strong feminist influence and no counter-culture for many (men can't have a counter effect on their wives because they're men) the chance that some women will get divorced before their children are 10 is 100%. It can be quite undetectible in advance for most men, and impossible to avoid when it comes.

I do seem to notice a trend of women flipping out like this AFTER having children and I'm starting to suspect some link between hormonal turmoil and bad decision making (not to excuse it, but I wish women would consider the possibility before making any sort of big decisions like this).

You're not the only one who thinks this. I know women who have done this or some who have been tempted to (myself included).

I think it may be related to post-partum depression, but the symptoms include a feeling of being trapped, like a wild animal, and minor things get blown out of proportion. Some women choose to leave their husbands at a time when they and the children need them the most. She may be sorry three years from now, but that won't do the poor guy any good!

In any case, the experience is beyond reason. I can't explain it, but I do remember a good friend of mine told me that she didn't think women should make any life-changing decisions until at least three years after childbirth, because that's when she gets her common sense back and not running on hormones. It also helped to have a very supportive husband who is a good listener!